guilt by association
By mighty_mara
@mighty_mara (161)
United States
March 11, 2007 7:50pm CST
i am not a very religious person. i believe in GOD but i dont go to church all the time. since we moved my husband goes faithfully every week. i think he does it for the wrong reasons but give him credit for going. last week he got baptized. i tried so very hard to be supportive but again thought it was for all the wrong reasons. my logic is it is between him and GOD. anyway at his baptizm the preacher said wonderful things about the type of person he is and then proceeded. my problem is that all the things that were said were out and out lies. he talked about my husband the hero and i lived with him. he was sleeping at the time. and again i try to said its not my business. its between my husband and his maker. but since i thanked the preacher and never spoke up am i just as guilty? please help its been killing me all week.
3 responses
@Stringbean (1273)
• United States
12 Mar 07
You are right that your husband's relationship with God is between him and God, but since his behavior affects you, I think you have a right to bring it up to him. You might say that you are just wondering, since his church teaches .............., why does he do the opposite? I wouldn't tattle to his pastor, but I think you have a right to expect some answers as to why your husband isn't displaying the traits that other people think he has.
@mighty_mara (161)
• United States
12 Mar 07
i tried that first he said the pastor got it wrong but ever since he just tells me to drop it. i was actually thinking of instead of going to his preacher maybe going to a catholic church or someplace besides his church to ask for forgiveness for any part i might have unintentionally played by just being quiet
@Stringbean (1273)
• United States
12 Mar 07
I wouldn't worry about it unless your husband has done something illegal. Maybe you should go with him to church and if they have any discussion type classes, ask some questions that might require answers that would point out to your husband that he is being a hypocrite. I still wouldn't tell the minister. He might already have guessed, and no point in making your husband angry. He may honestly think that he is living a godly life. Just trust God to show him that he isn't unless he is beating you or something really bad. Something like that should call for you not to live with him at all.
@antonyredeemed (39)
• India
12 Mar 07
As u say, though ur husband was bad, i know he has made the right step (may be the first). Its only God who could change people. give some time and hope for the better
