how 2 command temper or anger?????

There is really no hard and fast rule to controlling your temper! But i guess when you get older, your temper gets mallow down too. Depends on the situation that you're angry at too. There are times where you should get angry and be done with it. True relationships may get strained but that is what true friends are all about. They care for you and when the things that you do is not right, they have a right to feel that anger and actions follow. I would rather have friends who scold me for doing somethings wrong and our relationship will grow stronger day by day. I don't like friends whom does not scold you but behind your back, you keep on complaining about you to their friends. This kind of friend, you can throw them aside. So my tip in controlling my anger, when i get angry, i will count to ten and it usually works for me coz by then, i don't feel that much angry and can talk reasonably too. Hope that helps...

Anger is a natural emotion, and can be useful at times. The clue (for me) was not to try to command it, but to manage it. My own anger tends to spring from my (perceived) need to be perfect and my subsequent low self esteem when I fall short of being perfect. This is a little simplistic, I know, and there are many more root causes of it. There are anger management classes and/or groups in most major cities. Try to find one that meets your needs. You may also consider a counselor. It's always helpful to have a neutral 2nd party as a sounding board. It's a lot of hard work, but it is well worth it. Good luck to you.