what do you all think about this???
@mamaof4toddlers (123)
United States
March 12, 2007 6:35am CST
My friend who is 16 and has a 5 month old baby. Has bipolar she is not on medication for this. the other day she had a moment because her mom had spilled her coke so she started throwing shoes. they called the cops and when they came they said there was nothing they could do because she was in her house. they said right in front of her that she could punch a hole in the wall and it wouldn't matter so she punched and kicked a hole in their wall after the police left. She was also going to take the baby out in 30 degree weather and they said it is not a crime to take your child out in a t-shirt and blanket and that if anyone tried to keep the baby away from her that they would go to jail. basically they are saying if you are trying to protect the baby and she wants to take the baby in the freezing cold weather no place to go that we have to let her have the baby? What do you think of this??? I think it is ridiculous. she could of hurt the baby if one of the shoe's hit her.
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@sassy420 (36)
• United States
12 Mar 07
First things first someone needs to get her on some type of medication.Thats the problem here. Second though we may not agree with it..... its her child and the law is the law.The 30 degree weather part....once again we dont do this because we know that it can cause the baby to get sick. But the bottom line is that even if she did do it ... its not a crime.Its a sign of bad judgement( all parents make a mistake at some point noone is perfect)She needs medication and she needs some sort of structured care plan.The police cant do anything about it until shes actually hurt the child and you dont know for a fact that she will. Maybe its her mom she has the problem with. I had a son at 16 and my mom was forever telling me how to raise my child and it started more fights than a few.So maybe thats a problem there as well.She had the child so let her raise it the way she chooses.But she definately needs to be on medication.Child or no child.
@mamaof4toddlers (123)
• United States
12 Mar 07
yeah well getting on medication is easier said than done with this girl. We don't know what she will do with the baby. Cause grandma (of the 5 month old) has tried to let her be mom and she has everytime let the baby run out of formula and diapers. She also just leaves the baby with her mom and leaves and you never see her again for the next 3 days and amazinly she acts as if she misses her baby how can you miss your baby when you chose to leave for 3 days let me say its not for a vacation and it is never planned she just goes. and never come to see her. so grandma has let her be mom several times but as soon as she let her make the decisions she fails because she is not working so she runs out of formula and comes running to her mom. She has even said she is through that grandma can have the baby see what I am saying she did good while she was pregnant but know that the baby is here she doesn't want the responsibility she lets her baby stay wet for hours on end i babysit this baby and I am always checking for diaper rashes. When grandma is home the baby is well taken care. Grandma is paying for all the bills. Plus her other daughter so she is supporting 2 teenagers and a infant and is working as a cab dispatcher so doesn't make alot mom won't go to wic. of Grandma is only taking over because mom won't do what she has to do to raise the baby. we all know its her child and we would love to let her be fully responsible but she's not she won't even get off the couch to get her daughter to her doc. appt. when she needs to its alway grandma. she won't go get her babies social so do you think that grandma should just let mom have her?? I am the childs godmother. so you can see why I am concerned.
@sharon613 (2321)
• United States
12 Mar 07
This is bizzare. The cops obviously were not helpful in this severe situation. I feel for this parent. Having a daughter with Bipolare is very difficult thing to handle. My 18 year old daughter has Bipolar, As far as I know. She has stopped taking her medication. She gets into her mood swings and at times I can't deal with it. My husband called the police when she was out all night. All the cop told my husband was she is 18 and is allowed to be out as late as she wants. We have to try and hang in there and hope things work out for the best.
