How did you COPE with your first break-up?

there's nothing wrong in crying... actually it will make you feel good after you cry.. anyway try a new hobby... he's not the only guy in this world.. that is the first thing in my mind when i woke up in the morning..that's how i cope up...

Like i said in another trend like this, I think accepting the truth that sometimes good things never last but life does not end there would be the first step. Try to think that something in your life has been taken away so that someone better can come. Indulge your self on things you want like eating, being with your friends. Let go, love your self and love again.

Hello Kena! It must have been very difficult on your part. Is he your first love? They say that it will never die. It doesn't mean that the hurts will not die, it may take time but eventually, I believe that time has the power to heal any broken heart. I may have not experieced what you've been through, but I understand that you are going through a major trial in your life. Just continue on praying and be strong for I know that God will always be there to love you , to care for you, to comfort you and to wipe away your tears. Since, the break-up is still very fresh, I think, you have the right to cry and be sad for awhile, that's a normal coping mechanism. Then, little by little, as the days passed by, you'll be able to get by and live your life as usual again. It may be hard to cope up but, with your friends to back you up, I think it will be easier. Cheer up, my dear! You are beautiful. A lost love doesn't mean, its the end of the world for you. God has reasons why this certain event happened in your life but, I believe it is for your own good. Continue to trust him. It could be that He is preparing something better and wonderful for you. You are still young... Enjoy your youth and do things that you love doing. Your friends here in mylot will make you feel home and very welcome... GOD bless and cheer up!(",)

well just be yourself and i know you can move on....what is the cause of your break up? i know that its really hurt you so much....

You need a friend to talk to? We'll be here.. :) We do cry because we feel the hurt and at this point you might still have feelings for him.. Actually my first break-up was not that harsh when I felt it, but it still hurts because after we broke up my feelings for him suddenly worn out.. Maybe it's because of what he did to me that lose my trust to him and at that time I'm still in school so I kept myself busy.. Guy-watching perhaps with my friends that's the way it is in high school but I know we won't be together anymore because we're both immature to be in relationship.. if you're meant then you'll be back together.. Actually just enjoy the things you do, pretty much when times passed by you won't notice you've get over him..

Letting it out is a strong move against the pain. Release and having outlets make it easier. Also, a good support group goes a long way in the case that the disaster takes that much from you. Good luck! Lanie is right, you are too young to fall too far away from sanity at this point in your life. ^_^ peace!

well i experienced that years ago, when i was a teen-ager. first break-up is hard, but with the help of my parents and friends i moved on. and now i found my true love and i am happy.

Its really been hard, first break up from my first true girlfriend almost took my life. Would you think about that, I even planned to took my breath off. I quit from my job since I couldn't concentrate anymore and I knew its unfair to my boss who always been so nice to me, to stay there with only half of my willingness. Then I gone to vacation in far province across the ocean from our hometown hoping by doing so will at least ease the pain I was taking at that time but to no avail. And lastly I decided to take additional education and focus my mind on it. Perhaps it helps me a little bit to forget her but when I finished, I still longing for her. It became worst when I heard a news that she will going to marry to other man. My world collapsed, my mind became empty, I was only living because I need too but not because I wanted too. First cut as you said was to much for me, its so deep that until now I still remembering her and our memories from time to time. I was only 19 years old back then, so its been 8 years and still the cut is fresh.

i remembered that time, with my first break-up, i cried a lot, knowing that my bf cheated to me..i'm so depressed that time because it's my first love, and i dont know what to do, i cried every night, and i dont want to talk to other people..but when the time that i meet my second bf, the pain was subside and i already moved on and already forgot the past..

I can understand of your feeling. it happens to me too after 4,5 years together. It is hurt so bad. Trust me..you will find someone else that you deserve

hi kena, when i broke up with my first boyfriend (because he cheated on me), i made a firm resolve to make my life better than his. so instead of wallowing in the pool of self-defeat, i went out with friends, joined groups, studied hard and got a job. in other words, keep busy making yourself better. and bear in mind that he is not the best one for you. someone better is coming :)

any break up can be hard to deal with. and i dont think that you will ever forget your first love. heck sometimes i wonder what would have happened if i would have never broken it off withmy first love and that was many years ago. crying is ok. crying is a way of shedding the pain and sometimes the laughter. go on and cry. in time you will be better and you will move forward when you are ready.

every says that they dont know how to move on. but they are actually moving on and forgetting the past without noticing...just enjoy every step in your life..you got lot of friends around you.. scars will be left to remind you of what you had experienced and will remind you not to be in that same old situation. its a lesson learned, and experienced earned.

I've recently went through the same thing...3 motnhs ago my first Love and I broke up and I hoenslty still cry everyday...there are songs I can't even listen to because they remind me of him and it hurts me so much. I tried everythign to make things work but he jsut didn't meet me half way and I'm a forgiving person and I hate iving up on things so that jsut made it ten thousand times harder!! because I always have that hope that things will get better that we'll get back together but it's so hard to listen to your head instead of your heart! I know in my mind he treated me like crap and he isnt even worth having my friendship but in my heart I absolutely love him and nothing would matter to me. I totally understand. But there is no way of ever fully getting over anyone..they will always be with you in the back of your mind...but day by day it gets easier I had to completly cut off allllll communication with him and all reminders of him out of my life for me to be able to move on...I hated it and was so hard because I jsut wanted my best friend back but I and u need to remember that the person he or she is now will never be the same person they were when you fell in love with them time changes things.... day by day I cry a little less... and I hope I can jsut get over him all together but I 'm not able to do that right away it will take time some poeple depending on how much they really were in love with that other person will take even longer...there is no set time! If you wanna cry then cry!!! Almsot everynight before I go to bed I cry because it's were we we spent the most time..sleeping beside each other every night ..our most intimate moments...and it's jsut a constant reminder and it hurts so badly but then in the morning I wake up and feel totally fine even refreshed.. there is nothing wrogn with greiving or crying or whatever you have to do to move on. I'm still trying to figure things out too and hopefully we can both move on!!!

I've never experienced the feeling of breaking up with somebody, but has ever experienced a feeling of broken heart because fall in love with someone that belong to somebody else. It's very hurt. Sure we will be very sad, and may be can not sleep well in the night. But if you think the bad things about the person, may your thought about him mey be will changed. There are many more people out there that will appreciate us. So why we keep on thinking of the person that not understand our feeling. They hurts us, why we should keep on thinking of that person? Just pray, and think about your future, somebody is waiting for you.