Work or school and more...
@marief2rnurse (2704)
United States
March 12, 2007 7:17am CST
Please help me decide.
I just got back with my old boyfriend, the father of my 2 year old. Something major happened and we realized we wanted to be together. While we were apart, I was hoping to study to be a nurse but had to stop because of finances. Now I'm thinking of working. I would make more now working in a call center than how much a nurse would make here in the Philippines. The work hours is not ideal but the pay should be good and the medical benefits we could really use. I'm also not sure about financial support from my family in the US. My boyfriend prefers we do it on our own. He has work but in a few years he will be immobile because of his polio. He is 42 and already has a lot of health problems because of lack of exercise, which he cannot do anyway. I just want a happy life with him and our kid. I'm not materialistic and don't want to just get by though but he inspires me a lot and teaches me alot about life. Do you think it's bad to follow my heart and work and hopefully live with him in the near future? Another problem is I have a house and it's too far from him and from work places. I'm thinking of selling it and buying a new one closer to civilization :-) Please give me insights. This would mean giving up nursing school, which isn't sure anyway and a good paying job in the US. I don't think I can do both.
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@mdarma (868)
• Singapore
13 Mar 07
Hi Marief2rnurse,Instead of giving advise let's look at some options.
Nurseing career, this is a profession, if you are qulified, you have a professional certificate that might bring you food on the table even in old age.
Call centre, is good for a start, what assurance is there that this is a lasting job.
Your home, if by re-purchasing another home nearer to your work place, will it be a plus factor, what will be the resale value of your new home should you decide to sell it.
@marief2rnurse (2704)
• United States
13 Mar 07
Thanks for all the insights so far. My boyfriend wants me to continue my education and be a teacher. I'm trying to choose between the two, being a teacher or a nurse. The latter, too expensive.
@mcarps79 (1262)
• Uganda
12 Mar 07
GO with your heart...and if it is coming from heart than I think no need to ask anybody...anyway you are doing very good....whatever..be...if u hv decided to be with ur hubby and to take all future responsibilities of ur babies than u hv to earn and obviously u hv to sell ur ur old house atart new life with joy....
All the best.........
@Willowlady (10658)
• United States
12 Mar 07
It would seem that you have it all figured out. Being in town will make it easier to work and take care of him when he is immobilized. Heart is good, however, you do have a responsibility to those kids and so as long as they benefit from all of this then you will have done your job. Life is unsure and this may be an opportunity for you to take care of him in his later days. Good luck with this.
