Friends birthday party, put the present away.
By Indiffer
@Indiffer (287)
Norway
March 12, 2007 2:50pm CST
I got sad and worried today. My oldest son (age 8) had this birthdayparty for a nine year old to attend to, but the invite came abit sudden to me, so i didnt get a chance to go out and buy a present. So i found a game i recently bought, not even opened yet, and a few glowsticks (since it was a disco birthday party) and wrapped in tin foil with a nice blue ribbon around it and a candy stick for decoration. I thought we managed it well.
My son gets dressed up and we leave for the birthday. When i picked him up again everything seemed ok, until i asked him if he had fun and so on.
Yes, it was fun. But the birthdayboy didnt want to open the present. I asked why? No he just didnt. He hid it away for later. And opened all the others gifts exept my sons. How must he have felt?
Later he was agitated and picked on the other siblings while we had ur evening meal. This son of mine doesnt tell anyone when something is bothering him, he makes everybody else feel bad. So i had to try to talk to him. And it finally came out that his head hurt because of the music and that he wondered why his present was hidden away. I didnt know what to say.
I want to add that last year when this boy had a birthday, we forgot all about it. He got furious and hit my son screaming "why didnt you come?"
I feel abit lost to be honest. Because my son doesnt understand the same way other children his age does, i wonder how much he gets out of this. How much he understands. But there was no doubt he was hurt today.
Should i talk to this boys mother? Will it help any?
2 responses
@imsilver (1665)
• Canada
12 Mar 07
awww... your poor son. I would suggest talking to the other boys mother.. maybe try to find out why the other child put aside your son's present. I would definatly like to be told if one of my children was being that rude - especially at their own birthday party. Personally, I can't think of one but maybe the other boy had a reason for not wanting to open up the present right away.
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@Indiffer (287)
• Norway
13 Mar 07
Thank you for your comment.
I can think of a reason either, exept the fact that it was from my son (the boy didnt want him to attend, but had to because the whole class with girls and all came?), or that it was "homemade" and "embarrassing"?
I hope he has opened it now. Waiting for my son to come home to hear what he had to say.
@suscan (1955)
• United States
12 Mar 07
That is a very poor way for the other boy to act. His mother should teach him to appreciate all his gifts,and be a little more polite. All you can do is to encourage your son talk to you when he is hurt, explaining he will feel better if he talks about it.
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