Should the man always propose????

Because men are traditionally the hunters. Beyond bringing home the meat to their significant others, there's a certain amount of the 'hunt' involved in woo-ing and ultimately proposing to a woman. I know, personally, of 2 couples where the woman popped the question. One couple got married 6 months later. That was 2 years ago, they filed for divorce before Christmas. The guy is a close friend of mine and admitted that he never felt like his heart was into it. Although he was flattered and pleased that she asked, he didn't ever feel like it was his idea even though he accepted. The other couple called off their engagement a few months after she proposed. They are still getting married, but he popped the question to her on her birthday a few months later. Remember when you were young and you really wanted the brand new barbie/bike/book/whatever, and instead of buying it for you, your parents made you do odd chores to save up your money, telling you you'd value it more if you earned it yourself? I do. And I always did. It's the same way for men with marriage. If she pops the question, his initial reaction might be, 'That's so cool. How very liberated of her.' And then he realizes he can't tell his buddies because they'll all think it's odd. And it's not really as valuable because he didn't have to pick out the ring, or think of a proposal that would blow your mind, or well, do anything except smile and accept. There's no thrill, no chase, no hunt. And he's left feeling like he should be the one going brassiere shopping and drinking pretty colored cocktails with his girlfriends next week. It's emasculating to have the woman ask the question that men typically ask. While I agree that a mutual agreement to get married is a nice way to do things (no surprises, no fear of rejection), I'm traditional. One knee, look me in the eye, and ask me if I want to spend the rest of my life with you. :)

My husband and I discussed getting married before he proposed. We had already agreed. But he wanted to be all romantic and get down on his knee and ask me. He can be pretty romantic like that. So he did that, and that's when it was "official" and when we started talking about the plans and everything. He even talked to my dad about it before he officially proposed because that's the traditional way to go, too. I don't really see why it's so important for the man to propose, though. I wouldn't wait for a guy to propose. I guess some people just want to do it the traditional way.

man are much bold than women. in this case women hesitate or shy to comment. so man generally propose in front of women for his love and marriage or dating.

I don't think that there is anything wrong with the woman proposing to the man, but to be perfectly honest with you, I don't want to be the one to propose. I'm kind of old fashioned and I want him to propose and to have a big wedding with everyone in the family there.

No I don't think it is up to the man to propose. My husband and I were living together for about 3 years and we had decided that we won't gonna get married. And then out of the blue I just got the idea that I wanted to marry him. I asked him and he said yes. And we have been married for over years and still going strong. So the man doesn't have to propose.

The way i see is the sweetest way is the man will propose to a girl but in some other relationship two persons are deciding, starlien has a point there. There is a mutual decison on both of them.

I do not think that it happens this way all the time I think that with some couples it is a given between both of them because they have talked about it for so many years and do not even remember who brought it up or when it was ask. Most of us do remember how and the exact time we were ask, I know I do.

no its not as a rule,but usually women feels more shy to express their love but men don't h'v that much shy so men use to propose in the most of the cases.

yeah, its just as acceptable for her to propose i think live together for a few years first

Women are meant to wait. Men ought to propose not just coz' of the customary tradition, but proposing is like an act of respect to a woman, the man pledging his life to commit his life to his chosen bride.