what should i do?
By allenfu520
@allenfu520 (9)
China
March 12, 2007 7:31pm CST
Suddenly,i find it hard for me to communicate with others,especially someone who you ever loved.things are like this:Once i loved a girl,who now is my classmate in the coollege.She is a quiet girl with a strong personality.Also she is a simple girl,who just want to make her life simple.i fell in love with her over a year ago,and always tried my best to approach her,to make her happy.Things are like to go on in my charge.When in a night,three days before my 20-year birthday,i asked her out,and said "i love you" to her,but what is worse,she refused,and said that we'd better be friends,not lovers.How frustrated i was!in the days after that,i found it even more hard to communicate with her,though we were in the same class,or in the same laboratory.Everytime i want to start a topic with her,i don't know what should i choose in order not to make an embarrassment.And she always seemed very defensive to me,that made me even more nervous to be along with her.In this case,i really don't know what i should to break the embrrassment,and to rescue a ever friend?Somebody help me!
2 responses
@sunita64 (6469)
• India
13 Mar 07
Both of you seem to be conscious of each other, so for some time just do not start a topic or anything just behave with her as you do with any other person. Actually once you propose then things do change, and the other person who has refused thinks that if she will speak to you then you might not take her in other way. So just have patience and let some time pass.
@tallpaulno44a (1574)
• United States
13 Mar 07
I have found the best way to communicate with someone is to ask them something about themselves. Something like, "How did you do on that test yesterday?" or "Did you see "(Name her favorite tv show)" last night? Compliments also work well, as long as they are sincere. "I really like your hair that way", or "Are those new shoes? They look good on you".
Keep in mind that she has already said she wants to be just friends. Don't base your relationship on becoming any more than that.