Bedwetting
By itsjustmeb
@itsjustmeb (1212)
Canada
March 12, 2007 8:59pm CST
Okay, seeing as my previous post spawned a bit of a negative comment, I would like to bring this out in the open.
My four year old daughter still wets the bed at night. NO I do not scold her for wetting the bed. NOR do I punish her for it. Why would I? She's too little yet, kids have accidents. She does not have accident during the day - its just the bedwetting at night.
No there is no extra stress here. She just sometimes wakes up wet. NOT soaked, but wet. It happens!
We saw a Baby Bratz doll in Toys R Us- and she asked me what she could do to earn the doll. What we agreed to is for each time she wakes up dry - she will get a sticker on her chart. When it fills up, she will get the doll.
Now apparently I am being given heck for this, and im told to throw her back in diapers. Or pull ups. I refuse to buy those things, because she knows they are diapers and she wont use them as they are intended. And I refuse to put her back into a diaper and knock her self esteem down the toilet. Call me whatever you want. but in order for my daughter to succeed I don't feel tossing her back into diapers is going to be the right thing to do.
If people feel I am wrong, so be it.
I mean this is not something I always do with her. When she wets the bed, we wash her sheets together, We say OOPS you had an accident. Thats it. No big deal, she knows accidents happen.
So to judge me for the choices I am making with my daughter, thats jut wrong.
4 responses
@lizzieluvsu (76)
• United States
13 Mar 07
I think it's great that you reward your daughter for staying dry at night! don't let that negative comment change your mind in any way from what you're doing!
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@itsjustmeb (1212)
• Canada
13 Mar 07
Oh don't worry ... I won't!
She's working darn hard for that silly doll lol..
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
13 Mar 07
I don't see what the problem is. YOu are doing nothing wrong.
Bed wetting is not something that the child is doing on purpose and there is no need to get her back on diapers if you don't want to. I'm sure you have a pad to protect the mattress and for the sheets, well they will just be washed more often, that's all. She is still very young and when she's and her body are ready then it will stop.
You're probably doing this already but just in case - avoid giving her water or juice and ask her if she wants to go to the washroom just before going to bed.
There is no need to make her feel even worse for wetting her bed, and a calm and relaxed attitude like yours is just fine.
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@poppoppop111 (5731)
• Canada
13 Mar 07
i don't think you are wrong. my daughter was trained at 2 1/2 and never wet the bed once. some kids do have problems with this is it's not their fault. it could be a small bladder or many other problems. she seems a little old for it being just an accident if she is doing it often so i'd get her checked out to see if it's something else. but anyway i think the sticker sheet and the reward is a great insentive for her to try to not have accidents if that's if there is no medical reason for it. and i don't think putting pull ups or diapers is a good idea. at this age this will hurt her feelings and self esteem as you said and will encourage her to pee her pants instead of holding it cause why not she has a diaper on right. so don't listen to everyone else. just keep teaching your daughter that accidents happen but you need to keep trying. good luck
@poppoppop111 (5731)
• Canada
13 Mar 07
forgot to mention that my foster brother had a medical problem where he couldn't hold it in at night and he had this problem until he was a teenager. so i agree not to give her trouble over it. sometimes it's hard to learn.
@kiwikidz (753)
• New Zealand
16 Mar 07
I think you are her mum and you know what she needs and doesn't need to make her happy and comfortable. My youngest son was a bed wetter and I know it was hard to train him to use the potty or toilet,as he was terrified of them, I would get a bit upset and stressed out about it as my other two children were toilet trained real early, but I asked my Dr what to do and he said just ignore it because the more I stressed out the more my son would too, he also gave me a wee pill to give him to help with his bladder. It took hardly anytime at all because I just cleaned him and changed his bed each time it happened and made no negative comments about it, he also was a sick wee boy at the time with asthma so just lots of love and plenty of cuddles and I'm sure just like my wee boy your daughter will get there as well. Keep up the good work.
