Sometimes We Just Need To Cry
@jeweledbluerose (3061)
United States
March 12, 2007 9:34pm CST
Ever have one of those moments, where you just want to crawl into some deep dark hole and do nothing but cry until you can't cry anymore? Or your day has been so crudey that it makes you want to cry?
I feel that way today. Today has just been one of them days where it seems no matter what I do, I'm either not doing enough or what I have done isn't that great. It's really frustrating me and I have come close to locking myself in my room and just crying and letting all my frustrations come out. I know I am just being hard on myself at the moment, but sometimes feelings and thoughts tend to intermingle with themselves and cause a lot of chaos in a person's mind. Maybe this feeling (whatever it is) is telling me that I just need a break for awhile and to relax, before I totally lose all form of rational thought and become even harder on myself.
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@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
13 Mar 07
Oh dear, this is awful, but I know how you feel, I guess it is a part of life, the ying and yang, no-one is happy all the time, but I hope you cheer up soon, you are among friends here and we should all try and help each other to be happy, just remember there are alot of corners to turn and around every corner is something new, change is a certain thing in liffe, be happy my friend...
@jeweledbluerose (3061)
• United States
13 Mar 07
Thanks for your reply. I am usually the happy person of the family, but today things are just getting at me. They've been reaking havoc on all the wrong nerves and what not today. I do know that not everyday will be a "happy" day, I just dislike the days where I become hard on myself for what seems no reason at all.
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@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
13 Mar 07
to jeweledbluerose, i understand how you feel. i am the happy kind of person, too. i hate to see people feeling sad. so, to make them happy, i try to show them i am a happy person, too. and so, i cry alone and carry the burden on my own.
lilaclady, you are right. it's a part of life. we can't be happy all the time. but whatever happens, after crying, we feel better. and that's a good thing to remember.
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@pelya178 (693)
• United States
13 Mar 07
awww Heres an electronic hug 4 u (((((((HUG)))))))))) but yea i know what you mean. sometimes u just need to cry. i had one of those moments the other night n i just stayed awake all night n cried by myself in bed. its theraputic i think. hang in there buddy. praying helps too...i dunno if ur religious at all but i also pray at times like this n ask god to give me direction and guidence n just help me. so yeah just cry or scream n let it all out..so u can go on fixing whats bothering u and work on making things not so bad. SMILE :-) ;-)
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@jeweledbluerose (3061)
• United States
13 Mar 07
Thanks for your kind words. I'm not all that religious, but I save my prayers for others who need them more than I do. I did go and have my moment of letting go, and I feel a little better at the moment. I think soon sleep is in order though. ((((hugs back)))) thanks again.
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@carlaurens (188)
• Philippines
13 Mar 07
It happened to me but there's no one i cant lean on.. I just cry and cry almost everyday before and after leaving our house.. It's just so sad that only those who were affected must comply with the problems, but what if those who where involve never cooperate?? That's what happened with me, but i assure that in front of others i'm ok eventhough deep down, i feel the hurt that's killine me so hard and all i have to do was to cry, cry and cry..
@jeweledbluerose (3061)
• United States
13 Mar 07
It don't happen often, though when it does happen it hits hard, and though I try to hide and bury these feelings that I sometimes get, they still want to peak their ugly heads sometimes. It makes it really hard to swallow sometimes.
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@browneyedgirl (1264)
• United States
13 Mar 07
Hang in there. It will get better. And don't be hard on yourself. I found out recently that some of my own family members "sold me out". There are still days I'd like to do nothing but curl up and die. It's been a rough road, but I am getting past it. Refuse to give in!
@jeweledbluerose (3061)
• United States
13 Mar 07
Thanks for your reply. Believe me I am not one that likes to be hard on myself. There are just those days, and I think just about everyone has them, where everything just seems to catch up with them, and poof before you know it, your little world comes crashing down even if it is just for a day.
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@gingisnapz (738)
• United States
13 Mar 07
I've had those moments also and I know it definitely stinks. My days at work were terrible because my boss was constantly telling me I wasn't doing my job and I was exhausted from my efforts. It seemed like the whole days was destroyed, which that's a reason to cry, but there's been plenty of times I've been alone at night and just bawled, so I feel where you're coming from.
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@rain4song (5)
• Philippines
13 Mar 07
Crying is a way of therapy, it can help you cope with whatever hardness you're dealing. After crying, I always feel like there's a sort of relieve in my heart, like a burden has been taken away or something, so when I'm encountering something, one of my weapon is in crying. :) So cry, and remember that whatever hardness you're encountering will one day pass away. :)
@kgwat70 (13387)
• United States
13 Mar 07
I have had plenty of these types of moments in the past and still do from time to time but not as often. I think we have times where we need to cry or just want to cry whether something bad happened to us or people around us or not. There are days that I do not feel like doing anything other than laying in bad and crying. I have cried at the bowling alley before even though it had nothing to do with bowling. We all need a break and be able to relax from time to time. Sometimes everyday life will make me cry and prefer to be alone somewhere.
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@jeweledbluerose (3061)
• United States
13 Mar 07
I don't have these type of moments often thank goodness, cause I don't like being sad. Yesterday it just seemed everything started to pile up on me and bury me beneath something that I did not understand. I took some advice from here and just had some me time. It helped and today I am feeling so much better.
@anjikim105 (21)
• Philippines
14 Mar 07
oh... that's exactly how i feel today and in the past few days.. i think its even worse. It's like i try to solve one problem but before actually solving it another problem comes. I can't sleep peacefully and everytime i wake up, problems are the first things i think of... and im gettin really stressed already that sometimes i cry but crying is not enough... i think im starting to lose it
@jeweledbluerose (3061)
• United States
14 Mar 07
When things become overwhelming like that and crying don't seem to release the tension, than that is when you take a big deep breath and start to look at things in a rational way. Get each problem solved in a timely fashion, but don't try to conquer them all at once. To each problem there is a solution. I hope things get better for you. *hugs*
@greengal (4286)
• United States
13 Mar 07
Cry it out jeweled, sometimes there is no better remedy than just letting it out by crying. I have felt this way many times and so can understand what you are feeling. At such times I just let go and cry it out. I feel so much better and the world isn't such a bad place after all! Not everybody resorts to crying to vent, but for some this works best. If I don't cry and let it out I'm bound to get angry and snappy. My hubby will have to bear the brunt of it so I prefer to let it out when I'm alone that way I'm not blaming anyone for it.
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@jeweledbluerose (3061)
• United States
13 Mar 07
I can get the same way sometimes, if I don't go off somewhere and vent it all out. So I have taken the advice of many and did go and have myself a good cry. So much so that I ended up falling asleep, before I knew it. Just letting go and getting some rest has helped me greatly and am feeling better. :)
@KetanGulati (579)
• India
13 Mar 07
i know there are at tiumes, situations when we find ourselves caught in between --we want to say smoething,,,we want to share something,,,we search for a shoulder to rely upon and cry out a lot!!! but we don't get one!!! Not becuase we don't have friends or peers -- but because that particular time do requires someone very special....someone closest vto your heart.....
and infact many times I have seen myself crying over something I don't know///.. sometimes my ,moood just goes down all by itself--without any particular logic, any sense --just as it and I startr crying in my personal room or in the toilet so that no one catches me..... and when I am done with it I think why was I crying....some times when feeling blue, i ok I get it.... but the other times? nothing happens actualyl yet I cry.....heavens...am i gtting insane?
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@jeweledbluerose (3061)
• United States
13 Mar 07
No, I don't think you are going insane. I have had times to where I have started out happy and for some reason unknown to me, my mood swifts into depression mode. Sometimes life just has a way of picking and picking at us, until we have a sort of small break down, than after it is all over we start to feel better.
@GuateMom (1411)
• Canada
13 Mar 07
It is a very good idea to stop and cry sometimes. It really does help. There is actually a good physiological reason for this. The stress chemicals that our bodies produce are actually secreted through our tears, which is why we tend to feel better after a good sob-session.
So go for it and cry your eyes out. I hope tomorrow is a better day for you. :)
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@jeweledbluerose (3061)
• United States
13 Mar 07
Thanks for your reply. I to hope that my day is better tomorrow. I think what brought this on today is that I have been up since 3am and have been working since than, so it's all been a very trying and tiring day.
@iamjzhao (15)
• China
13 Mar 07
yes, sometimes we really want to cry!
when I was an undergraduate, I was very poor. One day, on the way to school two person in beatiful clothes steal my money. when I got school I really want to cry, but my roommates are in the room. in stead of crying, I smiled.
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@liangrifle (116)
• China
13 Mar 07
crying sometims can make the mood feel well.women cry more often than men,that's why women live longer than men.
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@angel68 (138)
• United States
5 Apr 07
I know your post was weeks ago but i hope that you are feeling better. Dont be so hard on yourself. Crying is our way of letting our emotions to go and its ok to cry. I cry when im happy and i cry when im sad. And im going to cry if i dont make payout this month. jk. But seriously take time out for you... spend sometime with just you. Relax do something fun. Something that you want to do. Get away even if its just to shop alone or walk alone. Lovely walk on a beach .. take in the fresh air.
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@jeweledbluerose (3061)
• United States
5 Apr 07
It's no problem. :) My discussions are open to all as long as Mylot will keep them posted on here. I am feeling much better now Thank you! :) I do now take time out for myself since that day, and I haven't had a build up since then thank goodness. And I really enjoy walks, now that it is getting warmer.
@mari61960 (4893)
• United States
13 Mar 07
Sorry to hear your having a sad time. Maybe a little getaway even if it's just for the day would brighten your spirits. You're right about taking a break, we all need one once in a while. Maybe if you take a nice warm bath and plan a little outing for yourself you'll feel better. Good luck and feel better soon*hugs*
@jeweledbluerose (3061)
• United States
13 Mar 07
Thanks for your reply. A bath is sounding really good at the moment. A nice long bubble bath at that. I've worked so long and hard today, that I can't go out for a walk since it is dark out now. Usually a nice long walk helps calm my moods, but there is nothing on this earth that can get me outside after dark to go walking alone. Thanks again and I to hope I shake this mood soon.
@happymommy3 (2012)
• United States
28 Mar 07
Yes, I think we all have those moments from time to time. It is good though that you let it out and acknowledge how you're feeling and not bottle it all up inside and just badger yourself about it. I have these moments quite often just from being a busy mom who most of the time can't ever get a break or someone to just help me "have a little" break away from the kids. But I will cry it all out by myself in a room or cry to my husband at night and tell him how I'm feeling and than afterwards feel so much better that I let it out and reassure myself that tommorrow will be another day and it was okay to feel the way I did today. Good day:)
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@PurpleTeddyBear (6685)
• Canada
25 Mar 07
I'm sorry your feeling so crappy today hun. for me when I have days like that I get the hubby to watch our 9 month old and I lock myself in the bathroom. I have a nice hot bath with bubbles of course, candles, and some soft music. I have nodded off a few times so be careful lol. Or I sometimes find that if it's nice out I will put my daughter in her stroller and a nice brisk walk with crisp fresh air helps. Sometimes a bad day is like a "smoke craving" if you concentrate on your motivators and keep yourself busy you will feel better in no time! I hope you feel better soon my friend *hugz*
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@Suze05 (480)
• United States
12 Apr 07
I think we all have days like that. Some days it just seems like nothing you do is right, and you just keep doing or saying the wrong thing..or not doing things you think you should be doing, so you feel bad about that. I rarely have days like that, but every once in a while one will creep in, and I find a good cry is usually pretty helpful. Not much else you can do really. Sometimes ya just need to go get a big, fat bowl of ice cream and go hide somewhere until the feeling passes. LOL The great thing about life is, just as quick as the feeling comes, it will usually pass, and if you have a bad day, it will be all over when you wake up. :O))
@Jennifer16628 (184)
• United States
12 Apr 07
Oh my. Yes I know what you are saying...after reading the posts it sounds like it is part of life. A roller coaster of ups and downs. I also try to be the happy one so everyone else is happy. It hurts me to see people I care about sad or upset so I often put up this funny happy side to try to lighten their spirits. It often works but there is a price to be paid. It is OK though because I can deal with it. It sounds like you are similar. CRY! The longer you hold it in the harder it gets. It's OK. As you can see there are a lot of us here on Mylot who empathize with you. Use us to help you get through the hard times...we are here and inevitably we will need you at some point also! I hope your day gets better soon...HUGS!!!!
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