Treating your kids right...

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I had a conversation with my 13 year old a few night ago, and I made the comment "Well you should feel lucky that you didn't have my mother for a mother..." And he paused and he said "you know mom, you are right." I didn't mean it in a mean light, I just wanted him to respect the fact that I am raising him entirely different than my mom attempted to raise me. I mean for example, in Canada we receive a monthly check called "Child Tax Benefit" which helps in the costs of raising children. When my mom would receive this, she would drink. Or have a few people over and they would all drink together. Sure we would have one night of pizza, or a meat sandwich for lunch at school...and IF we needed something badly we would get it. But she would not even dare think to do what I do. What I do when we get our check, is I have the mindset that the money belongs to my kids. So what I do is I get them each something they want (small of course not pricey by any means!) and then something they need. The need always outweighs the want. And then they have the money spent where it should be spent. Sure I stock up on food and pay bills and stuff too with the money, however we still do this. This way they have something out of the money, and they have something they need. My mother would have never done this. I mean I don't ever remember her buying us a toy or something "just cause"...you know?