Can we understand our children's needs in the right way?

schools these days push the children hard enough and I think that we as parents what are children to over suceed us so they can have a better life that at times we push them to hard to grow up I feel we need to take a step back at times and think about how we were as kids.Kids mneed more praise for what they do acieve rather then us thinking well thats about time and I also think that parents calling kids names is wrong or to insinuate that the made what they did was stupid. We try to tell me grandaughter that she didnt necessarily make a stupid desission but just not the best one that she could of. When she acts up I ask her if she thinks she is making a good choice in that way she stops and thinks and nows to that she has choices

We should make our kids feel loved and desired at all times. When we get angry at them for doing something disagreeable, we do not shout at them, rather we call their attention regarding the wrongdoing and give appropriate warnings as to what will happen if they do it again. If indeed, they do it again, which is what usually happens, it is the parent's duty to remind them of the agreement reached beforehand and give them the punishment they deserve. Right after giving the punishment, we must tell them that they must feel really sorry for the wrongdoing. Thus, I always demand that my kids say sorry to me and promise that they will not do it again. Of course, they will be curious why is this so. I tell them therefore that, it is because, our kids hurt us so much when they wrong us, they hurt us so much when they make us angry, they hurt us so much when we are forced to punish them for we love them so much we do not want to hurt them in any way at all. But what they did, forced us to do the things which are very hurting to us: giving them due punishments. This measure gives me the best results I could ever desire in my dealings with my kids. I'm proud to say, that they have all grown up to be good kids, the envy of a lot of parents I know. It is unwise to force our children to do more than what they can. My children, while in school age, used to think that I'd desire them to be on the top of the class. They know as to how I used to perform in school because, my parents and siblings told them about my achievements. Of course, I do not expect my children to be performing the way I did in school. My kids are their own persons. What I was, is not what they are. So, I told them that what counts would be that they do all the tasks their teachers give them in school, and study hard enough to make sure that they will always garner a passing mark. It will be good to tell our kids that it is important that they don't miss school, unless it becomes necessary. Being present at all times, makes them knowledgeable enough of what has been going on day in and day out. Just about to make sure they will make to the passing mark. I hope the above discussion is satisfactory enough for you.