Should my parents tell my brother that he is adopted?

Your adopted brother has the right to know before he accidentally finds out from another source. It will depend up to him how he will take the news but at least he knows. It will be difficult if he will be the one to confront your parents, there might be a lot of anger on it or resentment. At least he is old enough to understand situations such as this one.

I think an adopted child should know that they are adopted at some point in their life. I think it would be better to tell them when they are younger so it wouldn't be such a shock to find out when they are older. So your brother does deserve to know and it should be done by your parents. I think it should have already been done but everyone decides to do things differently. As long as he knows that he's loved as much as the non adoped siblings, hopefully there won't be a problem when he's told.

I think he has a right to know. It's a huge part of his life, and something I think he really needs to be aware of. I don't think there is an ideal age to tell him either. I guess the fear at the moment is that being a teenager he could rebel, run away or something along those lines. But he still is entitled to know. All 4 of my cousins on my mothers side were adopted. And they all knew about it, pretty much their whole lives. It didn't make them love their adopted parents any less. Plus, one of them now has a close relationship with his biological parents. He knows why they gave him up, and to be honest, I think he's a better person for being raised the way he was. He definately has a right to know. And a right to learn about where he came from (as much as possible). I think as a family you can just be there for him, and help him as much as possible. If you try and prevent him from learning about his biological family, you could just alienate him, and push him away from your family.

don't worry, your parents will tell the truth to your brother at the right time..

My personal opinion on this subject is if they have pretty much raised him since he was little than I don't think they should tell him. But, then again if they don't tell him and he finds out then he might be a little upset. I am going to be in a very similar situation after I get married. When I get married my fiance is going to adopt my son. My son is now four and Randy has been in our lives since he was one. Andrew's real father doesn't want to be a father and I told him after Andrew first called Randy daddy. He just said okay. So, I don't really want to tell Andrew that his dad that he's known as daddy since he was one isn't really his dad. But, Randy said he wants to tell him when he's older just so he knows that his dad (randy) was being the bigger man and stepped in and took the place of a man that didn't really exist to him. Andrew has only seen David once or twice and Randy's been around for three years. Andrew knows that he doesn't have the same last name as his dad and his sister but, he also knows when his dad and I get married he will have his dads last name instead of my last name.