How do you feel when you lost someone very close to tou?
By lovelyface75
@lovelyface75 (48)
Nigeria
March 13, 2007 9:16am CST
Life is full of suprises, these suprises could be good or bad. A friend just lost her fiancee and she is so devastated. I tried consoling her and all she keeps saying to me is you dont know how i feel. I kept wondering at these words. How does she really feel?
can you help me out. How do you feel when you loose someone close to you?
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5 responses
@beaniegdi (1964)
•
13 Mar 07
If you have never lost anyone close to you then it is hard for you to imagine the pain she will be feeling. I would imagine each person feels their own pain which is different to anyone elses. I have lost people over the years and it hurts but I have never lost a fiancee but I would think that would be more painful than any loss I have had as she would have been so in love and happy before this and this would be the last thing she would have imagined happening.
I knew a woman whose daughter was killed at 17 by a speeding driver and she told me that she hated people telling her they knew how she felt as she said no one could know how she felt.
All you can do is be there for your friend and be a shoulder for her to cry on and listen to her when she wants to talk.
@limosonia1 (1559)
• United States
13 Mar 07
Wordsw can't really discribe what goes on inside a person when they lose someone very close to them. I have lost my father in law and my sister in law within the same year and the pain that I went through isn't even close to the pain that the children are going through. My husband feels like he missed so many things and has some regrets. It's just devastation to put it mildly. Plus everybody is different with how they process the loss. Just tell her you are there for her even though you couldn't even begin to imagine the loss she is feeling.
@CollectingMyThoughts (304)
• United States
18 Mar 07
Each loss is as unique as the person suffering the loss. My heart goes out to your friend. There's really nothing you can say to her that will help her, just be there ready to show her a good time when she's ready to join the world again. Her entire future just changed, she needs some time to adjust
@texasmom82 (170)
• United States
13 Mar 07
I almost lost my mom 4 years ago. I would be devastated. I'm the type of person who likes to be alone when I'm upset. I would probably stay in my room alone and cry until I feel better.
@hersheygucci (63)
• Philippines
13 Mar 07
My grandfather passed away when i was 14, my grandmother when at 15, my father 16 and my mother at 25. these deaths cause so much pain in my heart, can you imagine loosing them in this mortal life, you can't tell you're friend you do understand if you haven't but we can show empathy to them,(putting ourselves in others shoes)that you don't know what she's going through but if you will be in her situation you will feel the same way, Just listen to them and they will feel relieved.