What would you do when the girl you're dating with gives you a MIXED SIGNUS???
By rogen_andrei
@rogen_andrei (638)
Philippines
March 13, 2007 9:40am CST
OK. Men are usually prone to this problem, like when they are courting or dating a girl who at some times seems to be very satisfied and happy with you being together, while at some other times she will just show up with a complete opposite behavior like nothing is really enjoyable with her.
How do you handle this kind of situation where your girl seems to put you hanging and gets you crazy? sometimes she makes you feel that she really likes you, but then come next dates, there she goes feeling like annoyed with your presence...
would you stop dating her for a while and give yourselves a lil space, or would you cling on the hope that maybe she was just not feeling okay and would be fine on your next date?
7 responses
@cassidy22 (2974)
• United States
16 Mar 07
Why don't you try TALKING TO HER. Maybe she is having a bad day and is just irritated. Maybe she IS upset with you over something. Maybe it's something you can fix, and she is afraid to tell you about it. Why don't you ask her and see what is really going on. Communication is the KEY to a good relationship. Assuming you know what's going on is only going to get you in trouble. So just ASK!
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@rogen_andrei (638)
• Philippines
16 Mar 07
true, communication is really important to keep a relationship going..thanks cassidy...Godbless!
@Penfencer (297)
• United States
16 Mar 07
One thing I've always found helps is to just stop worrying and enjoy myself. Have some confidence in her and yourself, and just trust your instincts. Sometimes people just have bad days, and sometimes people just go through different moods. Give her some time.
Also, she may be feeling that you're sending her mixed signals too, even if you don't notice it. Try talking to her about it. Let her know you're confused, let her know you're feeling.
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@rogen_andrei (638)
• Philippines
16 Mar 07
thanks for the helpful thoughts, penfencer... I do appreciate them... Godbless!
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
13 Mar 07
Hi Rogen, it sounds like your girl is having mood swings,thats what people do when they have those things.A person should always have an even mood unless something has happened that has upset them....I don't really like people that have up and down moods,it really makes me feel like I have done something and it confusses me...She is one of those up and down persons and Im not crazy about that type of person...She is what they call a "moody" person..If you are willing to put up with her moods than that is fine,but for me? I don't care for "moody" people,because their little up and down moods affect me to much.I prefer to be with a person that stays on a even level..I know all people do get down at times and sad ,if there is a reason....but if this is like a long term habit she has I could not deal with it..Good luck to you.
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@rogen_andrei (638)
• Philippines
16 Mar 07
thanks for your thoughts, slickcut....guess gotta figure things out.... Godbless!
@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
13 Mar 07
Well, it is known that girls are temperamental and are rather accurate with their sixth sense. Has it always been like that at every date? Or once in a while? I would think there is a reason for her behaviour. There are times when she could be moody and need your affection.
I would asked myself :-
1) Do I really understand her?
2) Have I been too insensitive and neglecting her?
3) Is she toying with my feelings?
You know best :P
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@rogen_andrei (638)
• Philippines
13 Mar 07
thanks for your wonderful thoughts, whyaskq...they are appreciated.. Godbless! :P
@devildinesh (183)
• India
16 Mar 07
That problem occurs often between couples who do not understand each other well.Even if such a problem occurs then i may ask her then and there 'what is bothering you?' and hence the problem can be solved easily..
@rogen_andrei (638)
• Philippines
16 Mar 07
yeah, talking things out would possibly be the best way out...thanks for your thoughts, denish.. Godbless!
@badbadtzcarlo (15)
• Philippines
13 Mar 07
cling on, and hope that later/tomorrow wud be a good day...
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@rogen_andrei (638)
• Philippines
16 Mar 07
thanks for the words or encouragement, badbadtzcarlo... :P
@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
13 Mar 07
I think it is first important to be sure if you still want the girl and if she really loves you.
Have you heard of the saying that the best defence is a good attack? If she can make you feel so uneasy, you can make her feel the same. If she can sometimes play hard to get, you can do the same.
This makes the courtship game more exciting, and in fact let you discern if the girl is genuinely interested in you. You will also be able to be surer of the depth of love you have for the girl.
Just my thought. ;-)
