Would you trust your newborn to the care of a caregiver/babysitter/maid?
By catcai
@catcai (1056)
Philippines
March 13, 2007 10:30pm CST
Let's say your a single mom and after giving birth you seriously need to work, and your baby is just like a month old. Would you consider leaving your child to the care of a complete stranger that is a caregiver a baby sitter or your housemaid? And if you do such, do you think this makes you a bad parent? because you have chosen work over the infant?
7 responses
@mummymo (23706)
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14 Mar 07
catcai - welcome to the world of motherhood - be prepared to feel guilty about EVERY decision you make for the future!!! Make sure that anyone you are going to leave your baby with is trustworthy! Speak to people they have worked with before, if possible run a police and social services check on them and generally dig around in their past. If they are genuine people they will understand that you need to feel that you can trust them with the most precious thing in your life! Many times if there is a problem you will notice little things that are not right! Hope everything goes well for you my friend and of course you sjould not feel guilty about having to work - you simply want the best life for you and your beautiful baby!
@syain1972 (1011)
• Singapore
14 Mar 07
I was at that dilemma not long ago. I cannot find a trustworthy caregiver or even housemaid. I had decided to quit my job and be a stay-home mum until my baby is independent enough. Then, I'll put her at a childcare centre to be looked after while I am gone for work.. I do not think you are a bad parent 'cos we have our priorities. We cannot depent on our husbands or partners to sustain us. We have to be independent too..
@kimko5099 (195)
• United States
14 Mar 07
I could never leave my baby with someone who isnt family. I dont think that it makes you a bad mother if you absolutely have to work. I dont have any family where I live so I decided to work at home at make money. If it is hard for you to leave your baby you might want to try working at home, that way you can spend as much time with your baby as you like.
@texasmom82 (170)
• United States
14 Mar 07
I would only trust someone I really know to watch my new born. I usually ask my family because I trust them more.
@stacyv81 (5903)
• United States
14 Mar 07
I do not trust my kids with anyone but family, and a newborn? No...but that is just me and I have a choice, If I didnt have a choice then I'd find the most qualified and licensed sitter I could and would still install some sort of nanny cam. But no if you have no choice then you are not a bad parent. You are choosing to take care of your children the best way you can. Dont feel bad, do what you have to do for your children.
