Love and Age

United States
March 13, 2007 11:51pm CST
For hundreds of years it has been considered quite normal for men to marry women who are younger. The thought of older women marrying younger men was rare and generally frowned upon. It seems there is a growing number of younger men who have been dating and even marrying women who are significantly older. What do you think are some of the underlying issues around this societal shift?
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• Malaysia
1 Apr 07
I think it just a trend for todays living. Recently here at malaysia, some groups of students have conduct a research for this kind of issues. The result is, many younger womens will prefer mens which is older than them for several reasons, like maturity factor, economy stabilization, understanding, caring, gentlemen and whatsoever. The most part i can said is, they just wanted for a men whose have big money in their pocket. This is a trend at Malaysia today. About older women marrying men who are younger than her, i think it's not something weird booboo. I think it depends on cultures on where they lives. If i would saying this, i think it's the same reason why women prefer older person to become her soul mate booboo :) anyway, my personal view, men should find women who is younger than him.
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• Malaysia
30 Apr 07
I almost forgotten that i post into this topics :) i'm sorry booboo. For me, i will find women which younger than me, the reason is something we mention already up there. But, why it's hard to find one, when we found one, there is many problem arise? hmmmm this world! LOL i don't know what i'm saying, actually i'm hungry right now and about to go out and find something that can be eaten :)
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• Malaysia
3 May 07
ops :) how do you know? are you spying on me, booboo? LOL...Anyway, easy to prepare and easy eat also easy to digest. Then get hungry again :)
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• United States
2 May 07
Well, I think most people (male and female) are attracted to younger people - but not necessarily do all act upon it. Many people find someone very close to their own age. Hope you found something good to eat - but I think you just ate noodles... :p
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@Augustta (1850)
• Poland
24 Apr 07
Look i am not able to judge anyone.All people are free to live her/his life how they wish and if someone is happy in a strange moral situation is not my business...My lover is same ages with me but where it is love no matter ages..and i don't have any problem if someone live how wish... I think the life is to short to have time for judge someone! Augusta
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• United States
28 Apr 07
I have to agree - it doesn't matter - to each his own. Glad you enjoy my avatar.
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• United States
20 May 07
nope - I think it might be a baboon
@Augustta (1850)
• Poland
24 Apr 07
hey!your avatar make me laugh! many hugs, augusta
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@polachicago (18716)
• United States
12 May 07
..:))...we live longer than man and we age later...man age sooner...in addition to...man after 40...is loosing.."it", when woman after 40 is gaining it all...:)))
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• United States
13 May 07
Ahh, well said polachicago...well said.
@smkwan2007 (1036)
• Hong Kong
14 Mar 07
Older wife - Biologically, in a couple, the woman should be at least five years old than her husband.
Biologically, I think a woman should be at least 5 years older than her husband. First of all, men are more short lived than women. Generally women have a life span at least 5 years longer than men. Secondly, women have better capabilities of adapting to unfavourable environments. Thirdly, boys develop into adult hood much later than girls. If a woman marries a man 5 older than she is, there is a high possibility that she may live all alone in the last 10 or 20 years of her life time.
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• United States
15 Mar 07
I would really have to agree with you - as most elderly women wind up alone.
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@rakhii (1302)
• India
25 May 07
I am really happy to know the concepts you told, coz I was not aware of them. But, as I have heard, we say that at an women are more mature than men, so if the older woman marries a younger man, won't there be maturity level problems???????????
@cherriemae (3370)
• Philippines
1 Apr 07
I believe that when you love a person, age really doesnt matter. If you love a person, your not thinking what's he's/her age.. Like, me, i must prefer marrying a person who is older than me. Because older person is more matured, more sweet, have stable jobs and a responsible one..Some men are marrying older women, maybe because they found older women are more carrying and they make them babies..lol
• United States
28 Apr 07
I think there is a definite ring of truth to that.
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@twils2 (1812)
• United States
30 Apr 07
Personaly, I've never put much weight into what age someone is. Its usually experiance that make someone who they are. My wife is 12 years older than I am and I've never been happier. Her oldest son is 9 years younger then I am and his wife is 1 year older than I am and they are as happy as ever. I think some of the issues that are causeing this are people dont worry so much about what others think, They just want to be happy. Take care!!
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• United States
13 May 07
Happiness is something we all want but it frequently elludes us.
@cherriemae (3370)
• Philippines
25 May 07
it's there choice girl..we can't stop them for dating younger men because maybe they found dating younger men makes them younger too..lol that's true, there are some older woman who are dating younger men because they feel that it makes them young and younger men are more active and more fresh than the older one..but for me, i like older men because they are the most sweet person i've known..
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• United States
31 May 07
I don't think age matters so much, at least the older I get the less I think of it. Perhaps younger people do!