cheated in the past now what?

I was cheated on once in the past, and I too like your boyfriend tend to bring it up in arguments. The thing is that I know my boyfriend isn't cheating anymore and I trust him. But for some reason I still keep bringing it up. Maybe you should sit down with your boyfriend and talk it out? He might be able to give you some insight as to what you can do to make things better.

That was 5 years ago, he should have gotten over it by now. I don't mean forgotten, I'm sure it's not something that can be forgotten no matter how long the time has passed. I'm thinking that maybe, he has not fully understood or accepted your reason for doing it. He's still hung up on it and he shouldn't be. Past is past and the only way to really move forward is to let the excess baggage go. Discuss this with him and express your concerns.

I never actually physically cheated but I was talking to someone else and my boyfriend found out. Now we are fine but he still, like your boyfriend, I guess has trust issues. The only thing that I've ever done that sort of worked was to try to (like the other person commented) is sit down and talk about it and tell him that it really bothers you when he brings it up. If you committed yourself to changing and he knows you've been faithful tell him that it hurts your feelings because you have changed. You just have to keep reassuring him I think that you love him and him only.