do you think its important to disclose everything to your partner??????

Wow. I'm not sure about this one on a personal level, but I do feel it's important to share all you can about yourself, that way if anyone ever comes up with something damaging, your partner has already heard it from you. Shock tends to make a situation worse, especially when the news is coming from someone other than you. I'd say there's only one thing about my past I haven't disclosed, but other than that I share everything with my husband. I'm not sure why I haven't told him, but something just tells me to hold off even though we've been married for almost five years and together for seven. I suppose one day I'll tell him this 'secret.'

yes!itz really necessary so that we can avoid som kind of problems in future!why keep secrets???

No, I don't think it is necessary. Yes the important life changing things, but those little things we hold precious and secret to our own hearts, no I think its perfectly acceptable to keep them ours. In the movie Titanic the "OLD" rose says "A womans heart is a place of many secrets" and I believe thats true. There are somethings that should belong only to you.

i really dont think its wise. i just had asituation like this. everyone isn't built the same. some ppl handle info different. so i dont think its allways smart to let your partner know everything.

secrets can harm a relationship yes but that does not necessarily mean you should disclose every thing just anything some secrets that will only harm you if disclosed is best left alone but if its something that can harm both of you in the relationship if it is found out by some other means then its best get it out now and try to work it out with love all things are possible but you should know what your spouse is like and follow your instincts on what to do.

I think its fully up to you in my case I did with my ex husband and what a Huge mistake it was thorwn up eveything we were together. Now being with a great man I have told him and we talk through it and has never made it an issue! I wish you all the best Stacy

no, things will changed sooner or later (I'm talking about your feelings for each other) a secret should always stay as a secret or else it won't be called secret anymore.

I think some things from the past should remain there. Unless it is something that affects him personally, then no, I don't think we need to tell all of our little secrets. Besides, I am not the person I was then, what's important is who I am today, not the person I was 20 years ago. He didn't know me then so it has no bearing on our relationship now.