Mothers who desert their children..................

Well, thats really a nice question, it is unfair indeed for a woman, and i also have this to add- why is it that when a woman cheats on her husband, you can already be sued in court for ADULTERY? but why isn't it if a husband has cheated on his wife- there is no case? Women are humans too just like men- i really don't know but i seem to notice that women get to suffer more than men. Pregnancy for one is a very difficult task yet only a woman can get pregnant... But today, i think more and more women are being open and are not succumbing to the pressures of society as to leaving their families when they reach their breaking point, they are being more assertive concerning their rights. Unfortunately society still views this as taboo- as a bad image to other women. When you do think about it, it is unfair- right? When there are instances that i hear a mom leaving her kids or deserting her family because of pressure and at most instances Abuse- i don't take it againts the mother. Its not my place to judge how should she be because its her family and she's the one that's involved.

Maybe there's a big reason why a mother would do that. If a mother can't stand the pain and she thinks that the only reason to end the agony is to go away and that she does'nt have the capacity to support the children, then she might do that thing but i think it does'nt mean that she deserted her children. Sometimes they choose to go away because of their love for the children. Better to live separately and give a peaceful environment to the children than to live with a husband in hell. No mother can stand to be separated from her children, there's always a good reason that we don't know.

my god how could she do that because you carry that child for 9 months fedd it bond with it and finally that one beautiful moment you cant decribe comes and you bring forth a tiny little life. i have been to the point of no hope but i couldnt bring myself to desert my family and i cant see how man or woman can do it

They are both bad,but you can expect a man to do this because their love and loyality does not mean as much to a man as it does to a woman..A woman is a natural caretaker and it is very unusual for a mother to have a heart like a man..A man can walk away and never look back,but a mother is different,,A woman has a mothers heart and loves deeper than a man does..A woman can turn a man against his children,his family and he will go along with her cause men are weak,,,But a man cannot turn a woman against her children or family............ men are phyically stronger than a woman, but a woman has a loyal and feels responsible and has more love in her heart for the baby she carried in her body and it is more of a part of her,its a God given gift....So when a women leaves it comes as a shock because women feel love so strong,where as men don't,some can but most men are weak when it comes to women ...so people think nothing of it if a man leaves they expect it because he's a man..but for a woman it is not expected of them

its realy shoking !!!!!!! How could a mother do this ? carrying her baby for nine months in her ......i love my children so much that even a thought of seperation almost kills me . how can a real mother desert her children.differences with husband doesnt mean to desert our family.

I do somewhat agree with the others on the idea that you carried a child and there is a greater bond there. We also live in the society today that holds greater responsibilities for women than men. There is also greater shame put upon women than men for actions they take. For instance when a man stays out at the bars and drinks and cheats, etc... As said before you expect that of men?... But what if the woman does that?... You know what everyone thinks of her for that. I have even heard it said it looks worse for women to do that than for the man to do that... Why?? That is the impressions put on women in the society we live in. I personally don't think there is a difference. I am a single mom. I had them walk away and never look back. I still wonder, How can you do that to your flesh and blood man or woman? In some cases it is better for them to walk away than to stay and put the problems on the child. Some adults have great issues they need to deal with without dragging children through it with them.

Any parent that leaves their kids is one that needs help. The hurt they leave on their kids is terrible. My husbands father walked out on them and that family had a hard long road to healing. My mother-in-law remarried a good man who adopted my husband and his older brother and raised them as his own, at least they had a good male figure in their lives to grow up with. A friend of mine married an older man who raised 2 girls as his own without their mother. She was several years older then him, he was 18. She asked him to marry her and he did. 6 months after marrying her he got up one morning and found a letter from her saying the only reason she married him was because she knew he would be a good father to her kids and now she was expecting him to raise them up as his own. She sent papers through a lawyer a year later for him to sign to adopt them, he wasn't even looking to adopt them. He raised them as a single father, the youngest is the same age as my friend. He now has 2 grown girls and 2 young boys with my friend.

its avery rare kind of mothers if she did it, cause mother who hold babies inside her womb ,born,feed,stay night for their safe,for their rest even when they are sick compair with father ,i myself has avery very hurt from my kids father but i care 2 much with my kids ,they are healthy ,first top 10 in their school and they are happy 2 and im not sorry for that cause that is our message as amother even u sometimes wanna remmber yourself as humanbin .mother has many reason to stick with their kids than the father. right?

I know this for a fact that my friend walked out on her family because her husband was going to kill her and if she took the children then he would kill them also this happened in another country now that the children are here in the U.S she can not see them and there was no court order stating the fact that she lost her rights.my friend has been abused by her x and she has been called every bad name that her x can think of and that the x had thrown kerosene on her and threaten to light a match this was in front of her oldest daughter her children has been told that she does not love them which is a lie and that when a woman is threaten and leaves that she does not love her children she was protecting them would you do the same if you were in her shoes

mother is the one who takes the pain to give birth to a child and bring him/her up. so i don't think that any mother can turn her face against her children.may be she will leave her husband but how much she tries she can never break the relnship with her children. so when i hear of a woman deserting her family i am damn sure that she will go back atleast to save her children.

I think both are bad. It's just sound worst when a woman walks away, because she's the one whose carying the child around for 9 months during pregnancy. If she can survive that, people think that she'll survived anything. Because pregnancy is a tough job that requires a lot of sacrifices. No man wants to do it even if they can... (except the governor of California in one of his movie..:-) So my first thought will be it's very bad when a woman deserting her family...

I think that if a mom or a dad walks out on their family, that the family is probably WAY better off without that person. Just find a new mom or a new dad to step in.

The title "Mother" is associated with hearth and home, nurturing and caring, and like it or not, it is an affront to that ideal for a woman to take the iniative and leave. Women fought long and hard for equal rights but somehow the right to walk out on a family without becoming a pariah belongs to the male.

I feel for the woman. I think it is unfair for a woman to be judged on this as no one knows what happened to make her do this. It is no more acceptable for a man or a woman to do. It is just unfortunately a sad misfortune in life that sometimes people need to escape.

I understand what you are saying..but I think there is a stigma with women since they are the child bearers. It is thought it is our duty to raise the kids and take care of the household etc..I think that is why it is different for us. I don't think any woman should abandon thier family..I know I couldn't do something like that. Sure we all have stress but you need to find a way to have some peace and time for yourself and still take care of your kids....

it is a maternal thing that if you are a man you will not understand, a man donates his sperm which is a very important function, but he hasn't carried that little human in his stomach for 9 months. And it is not to say that men don't love their children this is just one biological bonding that he cannot share. And yes some men are much better fathers then women are mothers, some women will even admit they do not have that maternal instinct and should never have been mothers in the first place, but the true maternal instinct a man does not understand.

I think it's terrible but i think it's just as terrible that men do it too. I don't have respect for a lot of men because I dont understand how they can be so selfish and coldhearted. I think people respect women more because they are so much more loving towards their families in general, so it's more of a blow when you hear of a woman walking out...when its a man you already dont have as much respect for him so its not as big a deal.

Hey, there can be so many reasons for that. Her husband may not be treating her well. Frustrated becoz of her husbands behaviour and children's. The other most important thing can be....she may be willing to go towards spiritual side by leaving everything....... Or she may be suffering from dreadful disease which she dont want to reveal make her family unhappy...... So reasons can be many. No need to get shocked. Just listen and leave it. Dont take to heart deeply and dont think too much.

Well, this might sound cliched, but my first thought would be 'shocking'. Its not exactly unheard of, but, slightly unexpected. I am a mother myself and I would not even dream of doing something like that under any circumstance. However, one cannot be judgemental. Men may walk out of their marriage.. wife.. children without another thought, but women... it is my opinion that women put themselves into a relationship completely.. getting out of it is like tearing a part of themselves and throwing it away, especially children... at times leaving a husband might not be traumatic.. however, parting with children is a tough thing to do. And if a woman deserts her children, then there has to be strong reason behind it.. no woman would desert her children for frivolous reasons.

because its not what mothers are ment to do.we gave birth to them we felt every move they make for nine months they are a part off us . to some men it hasent got anything to do with them .so they havent had nine months to bond. but i understand why some mothers do it .its hard but for me its a big joyyyyyyyyyyyyyy.