How to ask a person if he/she is gay?
By azriel
@azriel (2107)
Philippines
March 14, 2007 8:17pm CST
With the advent of out-of-the-closet openness, determining ones sexuality is no longer easy as seeing who is strutting when they walk (for the males) or who has short hair and swaggers (for the females).
So when faced with a situation in which you have to be certain about the other person's sexuality, how do you even approach the subject? Would you tiptoe around the topic, hoping that he or she will take a hint, or ask the question bluntly?
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5 responses
@FrancyDafne (2047)
• Italy
21 Mar 07
Excuse me Azriel, but is it so important to know if the person with whom we are talking is gay/lesbian or not?
In what case do you have to be certain about the other person's sexuality? When I face with a person I think to be in front of a person, no matters if he/she is heterosexual, homosexual, transexual, queer, dragqueen, transgender or something like this. I can't understand the reason why I should worry about people's sexuality.
@xParanoiax (6987)
• United States
16 Mar 07
I don't ask 'cause it's none of my business. If I wanted to find out I'd ask a question which'd probably lead to them answering that question..like "Would you like to go for coffee/dinner?"
Myself, I'd hope people'd ask me flat out, and not dance around it. It makes the situation more awkward, and if they just ask me, I can answer them with a kind of calmness which eases what bit of tension there is.
@cassidy22 (2974)
• United States
15 Mar 07
I would let them know that I care about them and support them. And then I wouldlet THEM tell ME when they are ready. I wouldn't ask at all.
@rarrimalion (674)
• United States
15 Mar 07
i dont ask cuz its none of my business. I wait for them to tell me, if theyre gonna tell. I mean no one asks "hey so are you straight?" its the same thing...it's kinda rude and uncalled for, especially if the person is just an aquantance and not even a close friend.
@cyclonewriter (2168)
• United States
15 Mar 07
I can't think of a time where I would need to know that about a person that I wasn't close enough to already know. It isn't a subject that I have had to encounter because I know about those around me that would affect me in any way. This is certainly an interesting question, but I don't have a lot of advice !
