In Laws

Just because they are your inlaws, you are not required to socialize with them. It is you life. If your husband wants to see them, then he can go spend time with them. It does not mean you have to. People just have to learn that life only goes my once and to live it the way it best suits them. Take control of your life.

Im so sorry to hear such a disgusting story about your inlaws. So far, i can tell to the world i have the most kind, humble, loving in-laws in the world. My mother-in-law was a friend of mine, i can share my sentiments with her withour her discrunizing me. And when me and mf bf argue, she was always there to pacify us, to make us friends again. She didnt go with the reasoning of her son rather she went by mine. She was the best i could say.

its not a joke i think so what u think, hello can u give me some more explantion about ur family and ohlalalalalllal heheheheh

I'm sorry, I don't have any horror stories for you. I hate that families have to be this way to each other. I have a problem with my sister-in-law, in fact we are probably viewed as evil at best in her eyes. Not that we are mean or rude, or manipulative to her but that's the type of girl she is. Sorry that you have to deal with that. I hope that since you have moved away from them things will get better for you.

I certainly wouldn't let my in-laws baby sit, ever, if they acted this bad. It is probably good that you have moved further away from them. Maybe it's time to just drop all the hard feelings and play the part of Mrs. Nice Guy. Send them cards and gifts for their birthdays and Christmas, treat them like royalty if they show up for a visit, and vow never to say a bad word to or about them again. It is really hard for people to keep being nasty when others treat them nicely. Good luck.

i dont think so...i am still not married

It is not only you there are many ladies like you who are stuck between responsibilites and socitey not being able to handle things like this.The best thing what i would suggest, remain undistured for everything happeneing around you.I am saying this to you because it had worked out for all to whom i suggested this.Think of it this way, the person who is doing all this to you is just being very saddest and trying to ruin you happiness and keep you disturbed.If you show it to them that all this will not disturb you at all, then they will realise that that is just like making a fool of themselves. Cheers and continue to do things that will keep you happy

There's only one in-law that I do not like...that is my mother in law. I do not mean to disrespect her, but I just simply can't stand of her. Before I marry my wife, there was one occassion where me, my wife and my father was visiting my mum's grave. I was praying and inform my mum that I am gonna marry my wife. Suddenly one phone call received, that was my mother in law who prohibit her daughter to come with me to my mum's grave. She told her to come home at once and she have branded my family as the begger. But me and my family have never asked anything. Her shouting voice was heard by all of us and it was unpleasant moment while we were at the grave side. That was one moment of rememberance of my mum and the mother in law made me even sadder. Since then the mother in law have been sending painful text messages both to me and my father. I have said to her to stop it but she still did not listen. I wish I can change my contact number but I just can't do it, would love to keep the number I have been using for 11 years! Few years later both me and my wife have decided to stop the communication to our own families for temporary and we have asked our families not to contact us and let us live peacefully. My father in law, brothers in law were so kind to me and they are willing to help me if anything happens. The mother in law did not want to talk to us at all, even to her own daughter. She was just simply misunderstood us. I do not wish to speak to her if she still behaves like that.

I am fortunate in that I have never been one to tolerate in laws...I can barely stand my own parents! It seems that your next step is to enjoy the peace and quiet, explore your new place and get new friends who are on the same wavelength with you! I bet you are going to have some REAL FUN now!

Ignore them, just show them that you are not the kind of person to be manipulated just like that. Show them and make them feel that you can take care of your family and raise them beautifully in your own way. Prove to them that you are worth their respect by showing them that you know what you are doing and you will be able to stand up for yourself and your decisions. They are just inlaws, though we are expected to like them we can just be civil to them. At the end of the day you will have to realize that it is you who is the mother and the wife and not them. You have created your own family, it will always be your call and not theirs. Even if you left for another state, you just can't always run from them. You just have to learn to deal with them. If you are able to do that you'll feel a sense of achievement. Always remember that life will always be beautiful, no matter how hard they try to put you down.

my mother in law is horriable also. every time she comes over she picks up our son and as soon as he starts crying she hands him right to me. on my husbands and i wedding day she came up to us and started yelling at him cause the dinner wasnt ready yet!! she hardly ever comes to see her FIRST grandchild, and when she does she is always yelling, yes yelling at him to get his fingers out of his mouth! he is a teething 5 months old!!!! you dont yell at a baby!! she wont even help us out when we need it. my husband asked her for $5 one time to get some baby food, and she said " i dont have $5 with me. what do you think i am made of money?" that got me so ticked!! so i had to ask my mom, which she went to the store and got us like 15 jars of baby food. yes i am right there with you.

Hi! Welcome to the club. I am also well a little of being controlled sometimes by my mother in law. Actually she live far from us but she always visit us, twice or once a week and stay in our house for one day. But she keep on texting (SMS) on her cellphone to us and call us sometimes. All of her reminder and stuffs. She even makes rituals for my child even if it is againsts my will. I told her I don't like it but she insisted. And I am a working mother and her niece was my nanny so most of the time they did what they want in my child. My nanny will not even consult me, but she consult my mother in law. I really hate it. She tell that if daughter in law would not follow their parent in law they would suffer or there is a punishment to that. She always told that, maybe she have guessed that I always disagree with her. I really want to respond to her if a mother in law like her the karma or whatsoever punishement is not possible. Of course I respect her. But sometimes she is overreacting. I have no question with ther help because she is active in helping us but sometimes she always cross the line of our privacy. Even if we have a quarrel with his son he would come to the rescue. She calls us and make sermons even if she is not part of it. Sometimes she will come to our house to make a sermon. It is so irritating. If I am mean I would really say stop minding others business. Even if we plan to transfer to another apartment before because that apartment's sorrounding has a very different odor she said we should not because the owner of that house is her friend and she is ashamed if we leave it. She even said that the smell is just okay even if she just visit to our house once in a week. She said we cannot pay the rent to another house. I really hate it, what does she thinks of us we don't budget or plan ahead? Maybe she want money from his son. I don't know but I hate her sometimes because she even backbite us.

That's really horrible! I have great in-laws so I'll probably just talk about my friend's in-laws. My friend and you are in the same situation. What she does every time her in-laws get on her is fight back. It's really like War of the Roses the movie. She yelled at time since they are not really listening to what she's telling them. Now they are like dogs and cats. She bought a house far away from her in-laws. Good thing is her husband understands her situation and is always beside her in all her decisions.

It's good that you moved out of state to get away from them. I think perhaps you and your husband need to confront them; tell them how you feel. Also, put your foot down when it comes to your child. You make rules or allow/disallow certain things for his good and they need to respect your authority and wishes when it comes to the child. If they can't, they don't need to have any contact with him until they can. Best of luck to you both; I know this is a tough situation to be in. I went through it with my own family with my oldest child. I am expecting a grandchild soon; and I've made a vow that I will not do this to my kids. I intend to do everything in my power not to "interfere" this way in their lives. Blessings to you.

I feel for you. I was not married to my sons father but ... I deal/dealt with some crazy things from them. I lived with my sons father and his parents when my son was born. That was the first of many mistakes I made. I would not say his grandfather was a problem but, his grandmother and her sister drive me nuts. Eight adults lived in this house and no one would help me take care of my son. I mean I took a shower with him in the bouncy chair so I could stay clean. On top of this his dad was sleeping with my best friend (or so I thought she was) and I finally found out. I did not have anywhere to go right away so I just stuck it out until tax time. I would put food in the house and never have anything to eat. They would make comments about how I did things but never offer advice on how I should do things. Basically they made my life horrible. When I finally could move they came and snatched him from me and disappeared for like 6 months until I tracked them down. They went to the judge and told her they always had him and so a 3 year custody battle began. Finally the judge caught them in a slew of lies and my baby was returned. Now, my son is almost ten and he has been told all kinds of things. He is to tell them if I spank him or wont buy him what he wants, ect. I tried for years to get along. Now, I just say he is my son and lives in my house. If you buy him this item I have informed you I will not allow him to have, I will return it to you. He lives in my home and will obey my rules and since the only custody agreement is between his father and I... I do not have to put up with your abuse. Please respect my rules as I respect yours. I have an open relationship with my son. He comes to me and asks about the things they tell him. I let him know that whatever was discussed is an adult matter and he should not be involved but I am also willing to discuss the facts (not my feelings) of whatever incident they speak of. If it is too out of control, I make a phone call and let his dad know he needs to handle his family so that our son can grow up loving both sides of his family. This did not always work but in the past couple of years he has come around and began to work with me. His only problem is he is afraid to speak up to her. He tells me just ignore her. I do for the most part but it still bothers me.

I was horrified this would happen with my husband and I. His mom was very nosy and very judgemental about things. I was horrified she was going to be a monster-in-law. But when we got married, we lived an hour and a half away because my husband is still in school. I always said I would NEVER move near them because they would try to rule our lives.. They have truly proved to be the opposite. They have completely let us have our own lives, and if my husband gets a job there, we're moving back to his hometown and hope to buy the house his uncle owns that is next door to his parents. They've turned out to be great in-laws, contrary to what I originally feared...so I guess I am pretty lucky.

im not actually the one who experienced this kind of story.my cousin and his wife were leaving w/ his parents that was 6yrs ago.he is the only child and so his parents were so excited to have their first born grandchild.they want a baby girl actually, after their daughter born that's the start of their bad nightmares.my aunt wants to keep the baby on her side even sleeping at night.my aunt spent money for the immunization (vaccine, milk, diapers, etc) since the couple both are jobless at that time.after a year or two, my aunt has spread rumors that she was the stand as the mother of the child and the couple did'nt spend anything for their child.and so my cousin & his wife became the iresponssible parents and my aunt is the best.aunt spoiled her grandchild very much,my cousin in law wants to avoid her daughter from eating candies but my aunt keep on buying candies other sweets.until the child's teeth destroyed.lol..after the child's 3rd bday my cousin in law to to my aunt and told her that she and her daughter is leaving and they are going to stay w/ their family (my cousin-inlaw's side).it's up to my cousin if he will leave together w/ his wife & daughter, but he does.now my aunt realized that they should not do that thing to their son's family.i told her "your son has his own family now and you should right there onhis side just to support them not to be part of their arguments, fight, their lives in short"and she then understand.

avoid them, don't let them babysit he is wrong, if he is wrong take bets on the DNA test for the son just get the heck out of there

i'm sorry for that. my in-laws were very kind. they like me more than their son. they scold him whenever he has done wrong. i am very thankful because they always show their appreciation whether you've done good things or not. i think the secret of having a good relationship are respect and humility because inreturn that is how they will treat you.

there's a saying: you can't please everybody,, the least you can do is to love your family,, and.. pray for your in-laws,, forgive and forget,, were only humans..