what would you do with this friend?
By ciaosamson
@ciaosamson (541)
Philippines
March 15, 2007 3:06am CST
I have a friend with whom I used to spend a lot of time with. We've lost touch over the years and I can't remember the last time we've seen each other. We now live in different cities.
Yesterday, I sent her a message through friendster. I gave her my new mobile number because I lost my phone. A few hours later she sent me an SMS asking how I was. I didn't know what else to tell her aside from what I've told in my friendster message. So I just told her I was ok and I told her about my new baby looking a lot like her father. I said none of my kids took after me. Then she said "You really are inlove with the father. Do you love yourself?"
I was shocked! Then I was furious! How dare she talk like that. I felt like she was judging me and I know she's referring to me having kids without having a husband. Hello! I'm single by choice! I mean I don't judge her not ever having a boyfriend and she's past 30 years old already. I never called her frigid. I never even thought that of her.
If you were in my place how would you feel? How would you deal with this? I'm almost not considering her a friend anymore.
2 responses
@edujccz (929)
• Philippines
26 Mar 07
Misunderstanding always comes when you dont know it, but the way i read your lines, there are difference between you that you dont knew. You ought to be best friends and a situation where you dont communicate for a long time should result to a more healthy and happy talk for both of you but it seem to be the otherway.
What I knew is, it is hard to find real friend and if she is really to you, accept her idea without emotion,place her in a situation where your time of call was not appropriate that she has a problem, understand her talk to her and ignore her rebuke, accept her as your friend longing to talk more. remember that emotion is always the culprit in all misunderstanding, disregard your emotion, let it pass and she will be again your friend
she was been your friend for a long time, but dont loose that friendship in a seconds because of emotion.
Have a nice day
@Yestheypayme2dothis (7874)
• United States
26 Mar 07
That was so rude. Since she does not have a boyfriend, I would ignore that part. In response to her question: Do you love yourself? I would put that back on here and say, Do you love yourself?
