what is counselling actually?

Counseling is a helping relationship. The counselee is given assistance in discernment. The counselor comments "So you feel this way because ....." "You are angry because ..." "You think .." leads the counselee to clarify his feelings, his thoughts, his reactions. It is the counselee who searches through his problems, confusion, and finds his solutions. The counselor reinforces him in every step he takes through the process.

I trained as a counsellour and I think there are different types of counsellours. No we do not dictate but we do direct our client to find the answers to a problem or a situation. In Post Traumatic Stress Counselling, the counsellour relaxes the client, so that, that client can revisit something violent or something horrible, in a safe environment of the counsellours office. So they show you a better way past the pain, and the same happens in grief counselling. The counsellour channels the clients pain and helps them to focus.

Counselling is advising or helping some find a path to a better life or a happier point. It is only advise not a demand. It is a form of help through talking and guiding.

I agree with you. As a counselor, you can make your client aware of his/her options and give information on available resources; but dictating or directing a client is not counseling. That's like giving them a fish as opposed to teaching them to fish.

yes i agree with you... once i was a counselor to male college students who are preparing themselves for priesthood. and yes, you really have to help them discover themselves and not dictate or direct them on what to do about themselves. the final decision on a certain issue will still come from them.

I believe that counseling is allowing someone to express themselves without judging them. I've counseled many people mostly in the area of relationships and life. I counsel according to my personal experiences. I believe those type of people make the best counselors.

What I have learned from my healing sessions about counseling is this: It opens up the hidden part of the patient as well as helps the person to dig little and reveal more about the things related with the sickness! I mostly follow to realize the patient that s/he is an individual and her/his freedom is safe and besides that the expression is also part of the freedom so one has to express such things which are not comfortable for she or he and affecting the health and creating the problem for the self! This learning really helped me to heal in a way that helps me to get positive results as well as to make the patient positive about life!!

That is the way counseling should be. Unfortunately, some counselors are not that way. I have seen counselors who push their clients toward a specific goal and will not give up until the client "decides" to go in that direction when the client really had no choice in the matter.

Counselling is to make one analyse the situation, circumstances, position in life, condition of life, reality etc. and make the patient approach his problem in a correct way and analyse and deal with it properly. It is like showing a correct and better path of life.

Yes. I agree with your opinion. In my opinion, counseling also help the client to find the insight of his problem. I think, direction from counselors can be destructive way for client although it it the best way in the world. Thanks.

I agree, counselors partner with clients and guide them towards identyfying behaviours and effecting healthy balance. There are different kinds of therapy though, talk therapy or as Morita Counselors specialize in getting the clients not to talk but to get off their duffs and do. And then some therapy involves movement - which is just one of the areas I want to specialize in. Although this is ideal therapy, some counselors still have a heavy hand when directed clients and tell them what to do and feel, unfortunately its not a perfect world! Hey ayeshamomin - welcome to mylot, I hope you enjoy your time here!

there are many definitions of counseling as there are those that practice the profession - different approach, techniques and procedures for different situations; but anyway the general definition is that counseling is a helping process facilitated by a counselor to a counselee or client. usually it starts with the client seeking for the counselor's assistance due to some personal difficulties or concerns. the relationship is then built in an atmosphere or mutual trust, empathy and respect and it is bounded by the professional and ethical standards upheld by the counselor with emphasis or the respect for the privacy and confidentiality of the client. there are counseling sessions to be set where both parties agree and talk about the issues on hand with the counselor assisting the client for the resolution of his difficulties. by assisting, means listening effectively, facilitating the client's thought processes, presenting some insights and options, exploring possibilites for good decision-making and the management of his life. the bottom-line however is the client's making a decision for himself. when this is attained and the client is satisfied with his decisions, the counseling reltionship is then terminated unless there's a need for follow through. the counseling profession has already developed over the years, where many people are now looking at the benifits of consulting with a professional to seek assistance for their problems. so overtime, there has brrn many strategies, techniques and approaches being developed to effectively respond to a particular need.

counselling is a process in which u r directed in the right path by the counselors..

i think counselling is more of clarifications about the things that cant be understood and giving more options about what should we do. it dont think its dictating the person coz at the end its still the decision of person asking for counselling that matters most.