I can't understand it.

Netherlands
March 15, 2007 4:26pm CST
A few days ago something horrible happend here in Holland. A young father trew himself and his two little boys, 4 and 6 years old, in front of a train. They all died. Before jumping he killed his mother in law at home.He was in a deforce with his wife. When I saw this on the news it looked as if my hart stoped for a while. Esspecially when a eyewithness told his story about the oldest boy protesting and a few other horrible details. This was monday and I still think of it a lot. I just can't understand why a father does this. When he wants to kill himself okay but why take his two innocent little boys with him. What have they done? Nothing. What is wrong whith people thesedays.
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• United States
16 Mar 07
yeah, i dont know what the world is getting into these days! its crazy! and i guess the father could have had so much pressure, stress, money problems with his family, and other really horrible things. thats why he did what he had too. and he probably took his kids with him because he didnt want his kids to live poor without parents. i dont know. its hard to hear something like that.
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@houhui (2)
• China
16 Mar 07
another person really sad!
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@weemam (13372)
16 Mar 07
Raissa , this is so sad , I had a lump in my throat reading this , what should the 2 children die with him , If he loved them at all he would have let them be , I can never understand someone killing their own children , this is just so sad xx
@Joey322 (272)
• United States
16 Mar 07
oh my gosh. that's so sad.
@mbizmom (237)
• United States
15 Mar 07
I think something in their brain just snaps under pressure. It's just too bad that there isn't some outward mark on people that could be pre-disposed to irrational violence so that we could watch them closer. I feel so sorry for those boys, they didn't ask to be brought into the world and then the man that was supposed to love them and take care of them took away their lives out of his own selfishness.
@MAX1966 (1029)
• Netherlands
15 Mar 07
you are wrong about that! he was under pressure,that is right maybe he did it because he loved them.. think about that!
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• Netherlands
15 Mar 07
Their must be something snaped in his head otherwise their is no explenation. I also think it's selfishness. He wanted to let his wive feel horrible for the rest of her live I think.
@mbizmom (237)
• United States
16 Mar 07
So if you love your children you should kill them rather than let your family have them? If he loved his kids he would of let them live regardless of how miserable he was.
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• United States
15 Mar 07
You hear about parnets killing their children almost on a daily basis, and I personally can never quite seem to figure it out. I am a parent myself, and I would never even think of doing something like that to my child. Yeah they make you nuts-but take yourself away from them and cool off. I don't care what he was going through two little boys had to suffer because he couldn't man up!
• Netherlands
18 Mar 07
Yes you hear it way to much. I think it´s the world we live in. Too much stress.
• United States
16 Mar 07
It's awful that things like this happen. People become mentally unstable and we don't realize the danger they pose to themselves and others. When life hits most of us hard we just shrug our shoulders and keep going. The others freak out and do unexplainable stuff. Its unfortunate and sad. Maybe we should learn to pay closer attention to people in our lives and when we see they are having a hard time make sure they get help and support.
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@jbb316 (1779)
• United States
16 Mar 07
It could have been that the details of the divorce threw him over the edge. It could be that his wife just out of the blue decided she wanted a divorce when he thought things were fine. He could have been so grief stricken that he couldn't function or think clearly. He could have just decided if she is going to hurt me like this and tear me apart then I am going to get her where it hurts....you know, her mother and her children. It is sad but it is true that this much pain can make a person do terrible things. I know because I am going through a similar situation. My husband out of the blue decided he is leaving. We don't fight we get along well. I thought everything was fine. It is killing me. It is tearing me apart and tearing my whole world apart. It hurts so much that sometimes there are thoughts of doing something to get rid of the pain but of course I don't do anything. The pain is so bad it is like you are so desperate to do anything to get rid of the pain. But I would never ever do anything like that. The point is I could see where if he was in that much pain over his wife to do something crazy. But if he wanted to hurt her he could have done something else like not let her see the kids. That would not be right either but it would be better than killing them.
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• Netherlands
18 Mar 07
That is what I would think aswell. There are so many way´s to hurt the wive. Why the kids.
@silkyt34 (324)
• United States
16 Mar 07
he not only took his two sons lives he has also taken the lives of the engineer and conductor of the train.. my husband is a train engineer and my father was too.. thank god my husband has never killed anyone but statistics have proven by the time he retires he will have killed 3 people.. i know this is true becuase of my father whe killed 5 teenage girls who tried to beat the train across the tracks.. so not only did he destroy his own children he destroid other innocent lives
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• Netherlands
18 Mar 07
Yes he also took the live off the man who stood besides the trainrail. The man saw everything horrible.
@GuateMom (1411)
• Canada
15 Mar 07
I imagine his reasoning was that he didn´t want his ex to have the boys, but what a horrible way to make your point! That really, really is awful. The poor mother must be out of her mind now, losing both her children and her mom. That is the sort of thing that sticks with you, alright.
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• Netherlands
15 Mar 07
Yes it is. I think about it every day. All they people I know start to talk about it. Now one seems to understand it. I can't get it out of my mind.
@wisedragon (2325)
• Philippines
16 Mar 07
The human brain can only take so much stress. Eventually it can snap and go out of control. The father's mistake was that he let himself reach that point. He should have resolved his issues some other way long before he snapped. Obviously there was a serious issue with his mother in law. He should not have let his mother-in-law destroy their marriage.
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• Netherlands
18 Mar 07
I don´t know if she destroid his marriage. There were trouble as i read in the paper.
• Romania
15 Mar 07
unfortunately the man had an extremely serious mental disease... i mean,not even a half-normal person wouldn't do that... i don't know if i should blame him 100% for what he did or feel sorry for him... after all he wasn't really conscious... one can't be conscious when doing such a horrible thing... i've heard about a similar case some time ago, about a man who after many depression crisis horribly killed his two twin daughters. now he's in jail (for life, i think), after being under medical treatment. he is now conscious of what he did and he is totally ready to pay the consequences. too bad that in this world there are such people... but unfortunately there's not much we can do, except for advising our friends and family to go see a doctor whenever they have a change in acting or thoughts...
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• Netherlands
15 Mar 07
There are a lot off cases like this lately. It's the world we live in I suppose. When you hear their family talk most off them didn't new that soemthing was wrong at all.
@joluha (342)
15 Mar 07
I know it is awful how people can take their childrens lives as well as their own. It's normally because the mother won't allow the father to see his children and I believe the attitude is "if she won't let me have them then i'll take them from her too" - totally wrong but then some people are driven to it and who knows what goes on their heads! I cannot imagine what these children must have been thinking when they had an idea of what was going to happen to them..it breaks my heart too..
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• Netherlands
18 Mar 07
That is what keeps on going true my mind the kids and what they were thinking.
@Modestah (11179)
• United States
15 Mar 07
I reckon he wanted to injure his wife, make her sorry for having divorced him. He took away everything she loved, her children, her mother. How desperately sad, selfish, vengeful. unnecessary. :(
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• Netherlands
18 Mar 07
I think that he wanted to hurt her. Otherwise he wouldn´t take the kids with him and kill his mother aswell-
• United States
16 Mar 07
Raissa, I just joined myLot yesterday and I completed my profile today. I have the same picture for my avatar and I wrote the following blog just today. I think it is interesting what I was thinking when I wrote it and what you have been experiencing over the last few days...do you mind reading it
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• Netherlands
18 Mar 07
I red it. It´s beautifull. Did you made that up yourself= Mayby there is a writersfuture in front off you. When you wrote it ourself do something with it. Greetings from Holland.
• United States
16 Mar 07
OMG! That is a horrible story! that made me sick to my stomach/.those poor boys..I dont understand why he would take the boys with him..he already killed the wife do its not like killing the boys would hurt her in away..it makes no sense and i dont undertsand what was goin threw his head,why on earth would he?...well at least they are in heaven with there mum now..poor things..:(
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@ZowieR (940)
• Canada
20 Mar 07
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your story just broke my heart. That the love in his live could cause such hate, that it woulds overcome the love for his sons. I can't imagine feeling any other emotion as strongly as I feel love for my son.... maybe I'll make dinner tonight.
• China
19 Mar 07
A very sad story.some times people become crazy under the pressure. so it is very important for us to keep a good mood.
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@amaramar (89)
• India
16 Mar 07
Today's world is the mixture of all good and bad one can think of. Bad things happen every second so as well as good deeds. There are approx. 6.5 billion people in the world... that means around 6.5 billion mixture of good and bad thoughts and intentions prevailing in their minds. We can't change nor motivate people to do good things except just few..., so for now, lets keep on doing good deeds from our sides with the hope that bad/confused people will finally realize and follow the same one fine day.
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@havachat (105)
• Australia
16 Mar 07
i just don't get it, sure parents have problems, and even get divorced and they can get nasty, but it isn't the kids fault, so why do things to them, they are the innocent ones, i would never hurt my kids, just because i had a problem with a partner,it's just not fair
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• Singapore
16 Mar 07
I had a similar story here in Singapore a couple of months ag0. when a young wife threw two of his daughter out from a ten storey building and then she jumps too. people are crazy nowadays or its due to the stress of life .... what a pity.......
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