trust in relationship???
By jimfabo
@jimfabo (327)
India
March 15, 2007 5:17pm CST
I have been married for 5 years now and we both love each other very much!! I have done what I can for her and will do anything for her..infact i love her so much that if she ask me to anything I will do it without thinking twice..But there is time when i get hurt!!! My wife does not trust me!! Everytime we go out and if even I look at to any girl she think i am cheating!! its happen always.
I had relationship before I married and she know about it but after I am married I have been honest to her.
How do I make me trust.. What should I do so she feel secure? Please help!!
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5 responses
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
15 Mar 07
I read somewhere the strange things people do when they are so in love, it saud that when you love someone most people think the whole world wants that person to, that jealousy is a double sided coin, it is horrible to get jealous over someone but it also means that person loves you so much they are scared of losing you and it is especially hard for someone who has a partner who has already cheated in the past, because if they have how does one know it won't happen again, no one can know 100% what another person is about, you just have to assure her ever so much make her feel secure in your relationship and never give her a reason to doubt.....
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@jimfabo (327)
• India
15 Mar 07
Well I had relationship before I met her but after I start daiting my wife i have been honest to her..I know she loves me.May be its coz she is scare of loosing me but for me its really hard and its hurt everytime she blame me. I have try my best to assure her.. well I keep trying!! Thanks for suggestion!!
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@traceyleeappel (510)
• Australia
15 Mar 07
It sounds like she has issues about trust ! You can not make someone trust you !She probably should not have married you if she did not trust you in the first place !!
My husband and I had been married for 9 years this year and been together for 11 years , we trust each oter 100% without a doubt !!
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@linda345 (2661)
• Canada
16 Mar 07
Just keep reassuring her that you love her and only her. Try and find out why she thinks you are going to cheat on her. Make her feel like a princess. Make her the center of your life just as she should do the same for you. Do you give her unconditional trust? Well ask her to do the same for you.
@smilingurvashi (1151)
• India
18 Mar 07
i feel that love and insecurity goes hand in hand. your wife must be deeply in love with you and so she doesn't want to lose you at any cost coz if she does, it may be very tough for her to live. so may be that's why she feels insecure when you look at other girls. being a woman, i think this is one of the huge turn-offs for many women too. if you are honest with her and looking at girls like you look at guys, i.e. indifferently then i think she is unnecessarily distrusting you. you should not beg her for trusting you. instead, make her forget such things by showering your love upon her and by giving her more attention than others in public place. God bless!
@kring_m (107)
• Philippines
16 Mar 07
tell her not to push you into something you don't want to do, and that's cheating on her. sometimes, you have to let the girls feel that you are more dominant. Spoiling a girl makes her feel that she can do everything over anything. But if you don't wanna argue with her about the same stuff, just let her feel that you are not cheating on her so that she'd feel secured.
