When a friend HATES ur PARTNER

nothing. just say cool and accept the things as they come in life. live and let live.

have you spoken to her about this? I would ask her what her problem is (nicely of course) and go from there.

i amactually in this situation now/ i just tell my friends it is my life and he is a part of it and they just have to acept that. my mother hates my beloved, too...and the thing is, none of them truly know him.

well i m in the shoes of BREE... even i didnt like the partner of my best friend..but as time passed i realside that its not going to gain me anything.. so i avoid staying with them but i love to go out with my friend when she is alone... may b ur friend must understand ...

this has happened to me, but its the other way around. my girlfriend hates almost all of my friends. she says that i am better off without them. and they are no good, noisy, rowdy bullies who will just bring me down. i hated it! first of all she does not know my friends that well for her to judge them. and they are only like that when its just us guys, i happen to tagged her along to our parties, and my buddies thought that she's comfortable with them, cause my friends know me to be like that too. so what i did is i talked to my girl, i said to her that i love her but she's just being such a nagger! so i told her not to come along with me anymore whenever my friends invite me to a party.

i know its hard for you. but just tell your friend bree that you really like this guy. tell her that you dont expect her to like him or goo out with you guys once in a while, but just be happy for you. be happy that you found somebody you really love and somebody that treats you good. and if she doesnt understand all that, i dont know if she really is a good friend for you.

I have a close friend, that is also like my fourth of fifth cousin, anyways, she is one of my closest friends. This guy that, I don't know what yoiu'd call it on again off again relastionship. We both have three kids, and are really close. He don't like me, and told her,if she hung out with me or talked to me he would leave her. I think he is a controlling SOB. I hate him. He takes advantage of her, did nothing to help her money wise when he was living with her. Thankfully, she did get tired of hiim cheating on her and kicked him out. They work together so she is having a hard time letting him go seeing him almost everyday. He keeps playing head games with her, she wants to be done with him, but feels trapped by her situation. She is looking for a new job, so she can hopefully finally break completely free of him. I am hurt, that during the time when he lived with her, she would only call me when he wasn't there, and would ask me not to call when he was there. Still today even though they are not really together, if I am at her house when he calls, she asked me to shhhhhh. She knows it is wrong, she has apologize for doing this type of stuff to me. Tells me how lucky she is to have a friend like me, because all of her other friends dropped her for doing them like she did me. My whole point of this story is. I saw behaviour in him, that wasn't right. I didn't and don't like how he treats her. Maybe Bree is seeing something that you don't yet. Talk frankly with her, if you are such close friends, then you should be able to have an open and blunt conversation, without it damaging your friendship.

well i thik she is worried about losing you , like jealous of your loved one, a fear that you might leave her company. Or may be she knows some thing or believes some thing about your lover which you ight have missed.

If your friend cannot be honest with you and tell you why she has a problem with you and this guy being together then she's not the friend you thought she was. A true frined would at least have the courage to be open and honest about why she has a problem with this guy. With her denying that she has a problem and saying that you're being weird, it sounds to me almost like she's jealous. Maybe she thinks that you took his friendship away from her. I would have one more try at asking what the problem is. Make sure you tell her that you're sick of her lying to you and saying she doesn't have a problem when she obviously does, and if she continues to lie, then it might be an idea to cool the friendship off somewhat. So many people lose their best friends when they get into relationships because their friends have a problem with the relationship but deny that. If people were just more honest with each other, we'd save a lot of stress.

Hi Piper, the thing is, each person is an individual. Once you get a partner you often expect that he will like your friends and you will like his friends. Needless to say that isn't always the case... and why should it? And you find it very natural to go together to a friend who has actually only invited YOU. You see, having a partner doesn't mean losing your individuality. So love your close friend for who she is, namely YOUR close friend, spend time with her WITHOUT your partner. Be YOU. (wow... wise words... but hey, been their, done that!) Best of luck, Caroline

I agree with the others, you should try to talk to her to find out why she doesnt like your partner. There maybe a very good reason that you should know about. If there is no particular reason then you will just have to accept that not everyone can get on with each other. You will need to tell her that you understand she doesnt particullarly like your partner but ask her for your sake to at least be civil whenever your partner is around as you would hate to have to choose between them and you are worried that if she cant be nice then it may come to that.

This happens certain time when some friends hate our partner. Look,I have to say one thing we have to think both sides.we can't able to lose our friend or partner. Only thing is that make a understanding between both.

Always put your mate before anyone else,they're your lifeline.Tell your friend to stop acting like a child and deal with the situation.If your mate doesnt already know that your friend hates him you should tell him,so there no cmoplications between you and him because of this friend.

PiperCharmed if i am in your position, I will set a date for the three of us. Right there and then I will raise the issue. I will ask my friend what seems to be the problem. It is highly possible that something bad happened between them that's why your friend is acting that way. Let your partner also know about this to patch things up.

I've been both the one who had a partner a close friend didnt like AND i've been the close friend who didnt like someones partner and I can honestly say that the friend who didnt like the partner (whether it was me not liking them or someone not liking mine) the truth of the matter is, it was valid.....My ex that my best friends didnt like was an a$$ and the ex's of certain friends that I didnt like were just as awful....Sometimes outside eyes can see better than the eyes in the situation if that makes sense... You said that Bree and your partner were once friends right? Why arent they now?

it happens sometimes when u have such situations where u have to choose b/w two options i think it's better to be with the person to whom u think u should be and left the another one for some time without saying anything to him/her if he/she really cares for you and miss you, he/she will surely contact you.

My best friend for years doesn't like my husband and he doesn't like her, since they both like me they will tolerate each other. You might tell Bree that you really like your partner and to stop putting them down, because it will eventually cause a wedge between you and Bree, if you and your partner begin to consider stronger commitments.

you should talk with both and explain your feelings about the situation

i have been a Bree once - only because i love my friend and wanted the best for her. the difference is that i was very vocal to her with what i think about her partner. by the way, her partner was such a loser. turns out her partner doesn't like me hanging around with her too. but my friend decided she'd keep me no matter what. eventually my friend and her partner broke up because of their differences while i console her and help her to move on. i'm sure Bree just wants what's best for you

if your close friend was a day your boyfriends friend .i think it will be better to cut yur relationship whith her.becose i dont think so that they can be good friends a day