love child
By chalanash
@chalanash (59)
Philippines
March 16, 2007 5:33am CST
a very dear friend of mine thinks she's pregnant with her exboyfriend but the thing is they already have separate lives. I know she's happy now being single again but she asked me if it's ok for her to tell her ex that she's expecting. my answer was it could have good & bad effects! bad effects: 1. guy might think she's luring him back 2.asking for compensation for the child 3. blackmail? ego thing... good effects:1 he would know he has a child. there' nothing else I could think of.
i know she could survive alone w/o the guys financial support, she's strong enough to handle a child.
what do you think, should she tell the guy or not?
i know the guy is not worth it, I mean leaving her for a very lame excuse. told her not to tell the guy anymore but at the end of it all, it's still her call...i'll just be beside her to assist in anyway I can.
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4 responses
@ironstruck (2298)
• Canada
16 Mar 07
She should tell him and at the same time tell him that she has no expectations from him concerning the child.
Tell him that she plans to raise it on her own and if he wants he can visit as the child grows and get to know the boy or girl...
@maxxine (610)
• Philippines
16 Mar 07
hmm the guy has the right to know.. but then if your friend doesnt want the guy to have anything to do with the baby..its her decision to do so.. i also have a baby from my x boyfriend.. and he knew about it when we already broke up and we never got together again.. but im ok and life was better after him hehehe
@brckoba (795)
• United States
17 Mar 07
I agree with Abbyey. After all he has a right to know that he is going to be a father. If he was man enough to make the baby he should be man enough to take care of him/her. If your friend thinks she can handle having and raising the baby by herself she should tell him also.
@Abbyey (760)
• Philippines
16 Mar 07
Her situation is hard. Though i would say that she shouldnt tell him and that she should live her life and her child on their own. I cant because i know partly the guy has the right to know that he has a child. As she conveys as well that she is not expecting anything from him. That's why its hard to convey the situation bec the guy might think you are going to demand support. :P
