What time is too late to call or visit others?

I will not call anyone after 9pm as that is also the time that I hope nobody called me. My kids sleep at 9pm, and I want them to have a good rest. As for visiting, I will not go to people house if I had not call them first, I would not just appeared at their dooe step. You might interupt someone life by appearing at the door step without notice. Likewise, I would like my visitors to call me before appearing at my door step.

wow, your hubby isn't working and you have 2 jobs? Oh well, that's not the issue you're discussing. I would definitely say midnight is too late. It's just plain rude and inconsiderate of others in the household. Just talk to your husband and have him let his friend know that he comes over just a little too late. and Yeah, I would not call friends after 9 p.m.

We do have young kids so no calls to our house after 7. No one is here late unless they are staying the night. I do not call anyone after 9 unless it is an emergency. I was not allowed calls after 9 when I was growing up. I also do not call before 9 AM in most cases.

hmm... i think 7.30pm until 8.30pm...

LOL We used to have a so called Friend who would do the same thing. I finally had enough so one night when he showed up at midnight. i got up and started throwing things on the floor and slamming doors as loud as I could. When my then hubby asked me what i was doing. i said LOUDLY. (of course my hubby was not the type to get mad at these type of things)I don't appreciate being woke up at midnight when i have to work in the morning. I am really good at throwing fits . Well the guy NEVER showed up that late again. As he left that night I shouted" the time for visitors here is before 9 pm. I was taught not to be rude unless absolutely necessary. I felt this was THE time.

It seems to me that maybe it's not all the friends fault, maybe your husband is encouraging the behavior by not confronting it when it happens, he maybe telling his friend, man you can't be coming over so late or calling so late, etc, but then when he comes over/calls your husband just allows the behavior to continue. What needs to happen is when the friend shows up at the door unannounced your husband needs to say, something along the lines of I know you want to hang out (or whatever the case may be), but my wife is sleeping and out of respect for her I am going to have to ask you to go home and come back tomorrow. I am not saying that this will stop the problem, but I say anything is worth a shot and if your husband won't do it maybe you need to. BTW, you working two jobs and him not even having a part timer, unless for medical reasons, is not acceptable, especially when you are making the only money in the house, it seems to me there is a lack of respect for you on your husbands part that you would have to ask this question. Just my opinion.

That is very inconsiderate of your friend. I agree with your method too, I don't call anybody after 9 unless its an emergency. You really shouldn't entertain your friend, talk to your hubby seriously about it and tell him his friend can come but not at such odd hours. It isn't good manners. I certainly wouldn't allow any such thing at my place.

some friends are so insensitive at times..maybe your husband did not told him seriously about the visiting hours and take you for granted..what about if you yourself tell your husband friend about your thoughts..

Personally, I think after 9 is pushing it, but I guess 9:30 isn't so bad, for stopping by anyway. I draw the line at calling people, unless it's an emergency after 10. I just think that is really pushing it, unless they have young kids.

I wouldn't like late callers especially if his visit is already disturbing my sleep. I could understand and tolerate that if it is prearranged or if it is an emergency. But if he just drops by there for a visit, I wouldn't like that, especially if he does it habitually. You said your husband has talked about it with your friend but nothing has changed. Maybe, you can tell him you will no longer open the door for him if he comes late again because you will be resting by then. This may be rude, but he has been rude, too by visiting in late hours.

For most people, I'd say 10pm is a good cutoff. With young kids, maybe around 8. There are others who you know are up late, or sleep during the day and we just plan around that. We also use our cell phones, and have them programmed to not ring if we're sleeping.

It depends on a lot of things. even if they dont have children they may work. I have to get up at 4:45 in the morning to be to work so I hate it when people call after 8. I answer the phone all day and am on the phone all day so I really dont like to talk on the phone anymore. Actually I hate to even hear it ring when I am home. But I am probably not your average person . I would not call someone after 9 though unless it was an emergency and if I know they have to get up early I wouldnt call them after 7 or 8. But it really depends on their life style. But as for your husbands friend, I think he is rude an inconsiderate. My husband has friends like that too. I would never just drop in on someone. I would tell my husband how inconsiderate it is of him and his friend If he wants to visit he can come over when you are up or you are not home. Either way he should call first. I hate when people just pop in. After your husband goes back to work arrange for your friends to pop in and disturb his sleep.

I think it should be before 9PM. As what I ussually do. Hope this helps.

Here we have a general practice of no calls after 10pm unless arragned ahead of time. As for visiting, if the lights are on, we are home so come on in, but if it is late, the kids are sleeping, so please be quiet!

I would not call someone after 9:30pm. Most people that I know stay up til about 10pm or later so I would say 9:30 for me, unless they had children. If they had children, I would not call after 8pm. I never make any surprise visits as I would always plan that with other person. If I showed up unannounced, it would be due to an emergency and did not have anyone else to turn to for help.

Thats how I feel everyone in my family knows not to call me late because they know I go to bed early and my friends know it to. If I were you I would stop answering the door maybe he will get the hint.

Calls no later than 9 pm. Anything after that, unless arranged ahead of time, are just rude. I have this problem with some friends as well and with some of my family too. I put a stop to it very simply. I was working nights and they would call me in the afternoon, while I was trying to sleep. I asked them several times not too call. I stopped the calls by calling them from my work around 2 or 3 in the morning. The calls quickly stopped. As for dropping in, well, the same thing could work. Show up unnanounced. Wait until your husband is sleeping and you can do it, and wake him. They will get the point eventually.

it all depends of the habits of the people you know i know i have friends that i can go to at 1 or 2 a.m. and it is o.k. and there are others that i would consider doing it..at 9 p.m. the story about the friends behavior is unbelievable maybe you ave to teach him alesson and open the door the next time he arrives atthose hours i am sure that after one or two times he will understand that if the door is closed and there is no response it is not a good idea visiting you at those hours..

for me, no time is too late to call or visit others as long as you a very important, urgent or emergency reason. . but if it's just for the heck of visiting or you're bored at home, better keep it off!

I don't know about you but I'm pretty much a night person. My friends usually call me for casual catching up or just hang out after 8 p.m. I am by the way, un married and had no children. My lifestyle might change if one day I decided to settle down.