How do you feel when
By crazy1
@crazy1 (479)
New Zealand
March 16, 2007 12:05pm CST
that special someone in your life is oversea's and stops communicating with you almost altogether.? do you get mad and tell them, or do you just let it ride, and hope they'll start communicating more again.?
I've seen couples that used to spend hours each night eirher chatting or emailing for hours every night, them all of a sudden it was down to a couple of pm's through a forum every 24 hours or so, and very brief messages they were too.
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
16 Mar 07
Crazy you know she does not have full access to Internet she is hardly communicating with me so please bear with her. She has no money at the moment and has to rely on her Daughter at the moment so bear with it, my dear Friend, as soon as she is sorted she will be back.
I miss her to but we have to understand. so please do
She loves you and you know she does, it is not her fault that she does not have full Internet at the moment
@crazy1 (479)
• New Zealand
17 Mar 07
This topic was meant as a general question to everyone here, not just a question about my life, or lack there of. I was interested in peoples opinions on the topic. I wasn't looking for sympathy or excuses. I know there are problems there at the moment however, but as mentioned, I was hoping for a general discussion.
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@rainbow (6761)
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16 Mar 07
sweety, sometimes life gets in the way of the things that we care about most, this does not mean that your beloved has for one second forgotten you or stopped caring about you. Times like this can be a hard test and coming through them is proof of our love, give youtrue love time, i see she does not have easy internet access just now. I'm sure she feels as youdo and is trying her best to stay in touch.
Please be patient and loving, I'm sure time will get you back in closer contact.
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@petspets (476)
• Antarctica
17 Mar 07
A few years ago I stayed with my daughter and her husband in California. It was fun chatting with hubby for a couple of weeks, talking about the new place and weather. Eventually I talked less and less because I did not have anything to tell him and sometimes I did not want to talk to him.When I came home I talked to my daughter everyday and it got less and less because there was nothing new to tell her. I ended up leaving only important off-line messages for her and also every few days I told her I love her. She and her hubby are back here and in the beginning we phoned each other and yes the calls got less. We are comfortable with the lack in communication because we know that we are okay and only call each other if we need help.
Sometimes we don't hear from each other for more than two weeks.
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@KrazyKlingon (5005)
• United States
17 Mar 07
Yeah - running out of things to talk about can also cause people to talk to each other less & less, especially when nothing new to talk about happens.
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@brokentia (10389)
• United States
19 Mar 07
Hmmm...I would have to wonder if there was something that was keeping that person from sending messages. Maybe that person is going through something and does not want to trouble the other with their problems.
Maybe that person has been ill and not able to respond...but has continued to send little messages so that one person knows that they are thought of.
Or...maybe that person is having a brain melt and does not know what else to say. One can only convey so many stories in chatting. ha ha
And then, sadly, maybe that person found someone locally that is holding their interest for an extended time frame. I would hope that person would be honest enough...but maybe that person can not find the right words to say and does not want to disappoint the other.
There are a lot of possiblities.....I guess I would just ride it out and let the person come back when that person is ready. Maybe then, I would know what the truth of that person staying away for so long. And if that person did not come back...I would be hurt. But I would hope to at least get a hi every now and then.
Friends glide away from time to time. But there are also times that they glide back and those can be very rewarding. :) I am patient. I'd wait.
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@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
15 Mar 09
Tough...tough...and makes me in a bad mood sometimes.
My boyfriend had been working abroad for more than 2 years and we communicate everyday. Thanks to technologies. If we do not talk for quite sometime like there is something wrong with my net connection or mobile phone network, it would be a bad day really. I had no so much problem though with regard to communicating with my bf because he is more worried and felt bad if we could not talk in a day.
However, there is this special friend who also works overseas and we talked everynight, 3 or 4 times a day. The calling everyday ended after a month when he suddenly realized that he is falling in love to me. Yes, he stopped communicating to me because of that and he respects my commitment wit another guy. It is very hurting and painful, but I have to accept it and respect his decision of avoiding me. As he have said in his parting statements, "it is the best way". At first, it is very difficult to handle it because I admit the feeling was mutual, yet it is wrong and unfair. He is a real man - a matured gentleman. Tough decision for him and for me, but I had to face and deal with it for the better.
