oh my mother ........

Can understand but the only thing is just stay quite, coz' at their age they start feeling may be as if none care for their words. Its general feeling of elder people that once retired and at home none would care them much, which might not be true but with that feeling inside and unable to tell it out, they start off with a fight. They did see life more than us and iam sure somethings that they say would be right if not all the while at times do listen and stay patience. Stay calm for a while and once she is quite after her whole shouting may b you can go to her and have a small talk and explain things once again and may be she would understand then. Generally every mom is so, even my mom is so, but tell u she understands me more than anyone else.

You didn't say if this is a new thing or has it always been like that. If it has always been like that then it is a control issue, she needs to be in control of something, perhaps if she had something in her life that she really enjoyed doing, she might be less in your face about you and your parenting skills. If this a rather recent thing, perhaps she is in need of medical attention, because being angry is a cover up for fear. fear of the unknown possibly, fear that no one cares. all sorts of fears, the other thing is maybe she has dementia. I do and I was 59 when it started, I was paranoid, angry fearful critical, judgmental, forgetful,If your mom is not acting like she usually does then get her to a doctor for help as there are medications that can and will help

Your mother is old. You should be patient with her. As they become old they become eccentric. You have to put up with them. Afterall she was the mom who has taken care of you during you childhood and she is your mom. and you have to take of her.

I want to put a hard fact to you. How many years do you think an average human live? Be nice to her. She has been through a lot in life.. give in to her yea?

Hey I understand you. My mother and I Were the same way almost all the time. She never came out and said I was stupid but I could sometimes hear it in the words she said. I find that to stop the arguements I would just let her go on and not take hurtful things to heart, easiser said then done eh lol. If I couldn't take it anymore I'd leave the room or house let her rant to herself. My mother couldn't understand me I guess cause our lives were different and she really didn't take the time to know the real me, as an adult. I will say though that if through all the fights there is love between the both of you then may want her to read this. My mother is now in the hospital and what ever chances of mending that could have been done between us is slim to none because of her mental state. Take it from me if you wait too long the chance to enjoy each other now that you and her are adults. Maybe you and her need to get to know each other.