Is your child a cry baby??????????

@mummymo (23706)
March 16, 2007 4:03pm CST
Here's the thing my 5 yr old daughter has a REALLY high pain threshold and it is very rare for her to cry because she has hurt herself! Don't get me wrong she does cry; if she doesn't get her own way, if she's in a temper and if she has been bad - she really hates to think she's been bad, but very rarely because of pain! One time she fell down the stairs and landed on her head, well I was beside myself with worry but she picked herself up , dusted herself down and insisted on going to nursery! Her school friend on the other hand would seemingly cry if he even thought he might hurt himself! What type of child is yours? Is it that boys cry easier than girls ? Do I have a brave little girl or should I be worried?
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@mfpsassy (2827)
• United States
16 Mar 07
I think part of it depends on how people react when kids get hurt. If you make a big deal each time a child might have hurt themselves then they will act like your daughter's friend. But if you wait to see how the child reacts first when they get hurt they tend to learn they are not hurt at all. As for falling down the stairs I would have been worried no matter what
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@mummymo (23706)
16 Mar 07
That's probably true - apart from the fact that my son was a bit like her friend and I think I've treated them both the same! I was worried, for a couple of days, I wanted to take her to hospital to get checked but everyone told me just to make sure there were no worrying symptoms ...
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@mfpsassy (2827)
• United States
16 Mar 07
Hello we're moms we worry when there isn't any symptoms to worry about when we think there should be
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@mummymo (23706)
16 Mar 07
Isn't that what we signed up for? lol Think my hair might be white under all the dye!!!
@raydene (9871)
• United States
16 Mar 07
Mummymo You have what we refer to as a tomboy..Stupid name don't know where it came from.Anyway my daughter is one and although she looks like a georgous model in reality she is tough as nails.So...not to worry.... about your little sweetie...Someday she'll come home and tell you she gave an x boy friend a black eye! She's my kind of gal. R
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@mummymo (23706)
16 Mar 07
And you're my kind! She is a tomboy but she loves pink, barbie and oh yeah Dr Who lol Can't (or won't!) imagine her as a teenager, the mere thought of it terrifies me!
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@mummymo (23706)
17 Mar 07
Guilty they are mine and I adore them - most of the time!!! Seen the pictures of your gorgeous baby girl and KNOW that you are very proud of her! xxx
@raydene (9871)
• United States
17 Mar 07
Well then don't blink Honey cause it happens that fast.I have pics of my tomboy at my profile.She and her horses...that's her life.And I saw a sweet little devil with a handsome teenage boy at your profile...If they are yours they are tooooo nice for words. R
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
17 Mar 07
dont think you should be worried about it Girls are tough lol look what we have to go thru when we grow up! All kids are different to pain be it boy or girl.Had 4 boys 1 girl now a Grand daughter When she falls she will cry a 2nd then say got a boo boo and go on alot of times she does a fake cry and you can tell the difference. Then there are some kids that have been so pampered that they cry in a minute for nothing
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@mummymo (23706)
17 Mar 07
lol lakota thanks for pointing that out - she's just getting ready for when she has kids of her own!!!
@kathy77 (7486)
• Australia
17 Mar 07
Well I was very lucky when my children were growing up they were very strong minded and never cried that much for nothing unless something was really wrong with them, I often worried about them for not showing when they were upset but they seem to deal with it, and they were very sympathetic to others when they cried.
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@mummymo (23706)
17 Mar 07
Thank you yet again for sharing and reassuring me Kathy! x
• United States
17 Mar 07
Being a mom to 4 children I say dont worry I have one girl who whines at every little boobooo but the rest of the kids do not at all they just dust off and go on... If your worried mention it to the pedatrician or the school teacher and see what they think.
@mummymo (23706)
17 Mar 07
Thanks so much for your thoughtful sdvice smurfette!
• Philippines
17 Mar 07
yeah!! but in the past, as you show your child love, care, he really smile, his smile easy all the pain in my job, after job, after hardwork, seeing him smile ease all my pain. just always be with her. in that thing, she will never cry anymore.
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@mummymo (23706)
17 Mar 07
Thanks paylok!
@weemam (13372)
16 Mar 07
I think you have a very special little girl who knows she doesn't have to cry to get your attention , be proud as I know you are , She just wants to get on with things and no nonsense , just like her mummy xxxx
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@mummymo (23706)
16 Mar 07
Thank you so much weemam, she is a honey! - not what I was calling her under my breath an hour ago though!!!
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
17 Mar 07
No my Kids are not really but from what you explained to me today, I know my Kids would have cried and I think anyone would as it would have been very sore. Your little Sweety is one tough Cookie. Love and Hugs xx
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@mummymo (23706)
17 Mar 07
She sure is and she scares me!!!!! Thanks again honeyxxx
@GardenGerty (160883)
• United States
17 Mar 07
Some kids are more sensitive to pain than others. Seems her feelings and conscience give her more pain than the physical. She also may have picked up her resiliency from you. If you did not panic every time she had a bump or bruise, she learned not to as well. A child whose caregiver reacts like it is the end of the world every time they stumble will cry, because they think it is expected of them. My daughter broke her arm above the elbow in 3rd grade. I was called, and took her to the emergency room. She said "Mom, I'm not an emergency, I'm not bleeding." She could have lost her arm because of where the break was. We are pretty stoic around here, and so was she, even when she had to be transferred to another hospital. After wards she would not take her pain pills, they made her "feel funny". Your daughter may just react the way it is modelled for her.
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@mummymo (23706)
17 Mar 07
Thanks for sharing gerty - sounds like our daughters are a bit alike - but believe me I am NOWHER near as brave as she is!
• United States
17 Mar 07
You have a brave little girl but I would still be worried. I saw a TV show where a little girl sometimes seriously injured herself but it was not immediately noticable because of her extremely high tolerance to pain. So I think you would have to be extra careful when she fell or had an accident and didn't complain.
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@mummymo (23706)
17 Mar 07
Yeah I've heard about this kind of thing as well that is why I worry and want to get her checked out! Some people though make me feel like a paranoid mum!
• Philippines
17 Mar 07
If your baby cries on other occasions then I think there's no need to worry. Your daughter might just have high tolerance for pain. She must be a brave child.
@mummymo (23706)
17 Mar 07
She is a very brave chil Thank you! I am very lucky but then we are all blessed when we have children!
@hookfan (447)
17 Mar 07
I don't have children myself but as a child it would take me a while to even realise I'd hurt myself! I would just get up and keep going. As a teenager I had broken my ankle in 3 places and kept walking on it before I started thinking wow this doesn't feel right! Mind you it only took about 10 minutes for it to hit me, but gee! As an adult I have the same problem. I got run into by a cyclist on the pavement and it took a good 3 days before I started to hurt. My GP has said it's the way my brain receives pain messages. Could be a good thing?
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@mummymo (23706)
17 Mar 07
Could be a good thing but you have to be careful hookfan - pain is a sign of something wrong!!
16 Mar 07
I think childrens pain threshholds really do vary. I have a boy who cries at the merest scratch and a bump is exagerated into a broken leg! Then I have another boy who feels the pain but turns it to anger istead of pain! My daughter is very wobbly on her feet and has spent numerous days with her knees in bandages but it does not seem to bother her at all. I think alot also depends on how much you wrap them up when younger. I myself with my daughter just say you ok and up she gets. But I do get alot of harsh looks!
@mummymo (23706)
16 Mar 07
Oh I know those looks - only too well!!! I suppose it does depend on the individual child - every one is unique after all!
@mebddb (5)
• United States
17 Mar 07
I have a boy and a girl and neither of them are big on crying, thank goodness :-) I think each child is different, and I don't think you have anything to worry about. The only time this could become a problem is if a child cannot empathize with other children's pain.
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@mummymo (23706)
17 Mar 07
Oh no she is very considerate of other children and always wants to help them!