infidelity

Well I cought my husband setting on the tail gate of his truck outside a bar. I got out of my car and beat the daylight out of the girl he was with. I really feel bad about it now because I punched her and she was down on her knees and she looked at my husband and asked him why he was letting me do this to her? My husband said she is my wife. She did not know he was married. I felt so bad after that. I just turned around and got into my car. That was about 14 years ago. We was seperated for about 6 months. I went out with one man. We was just friends. The guy I went out with was gay but my husband did not know it. Oh we had so much fun at my husbands espense. My friend would treat me like he worshiped the ground I walked on. My husband started following us. He would spend the night with me and we would sat up and watch movies and both sat and look out the window at my husband. Well my husband finally broke and called me and asked me to meet up with him. I really dont think my husband had any relations with the woman but he was with her. We started dating again and my gay friend made a big scene for me and my husband really thought he might loose me to this other man. To this day, my husband never knew this man is gay. I still see him every once in a while and we just wink and smile. This wonderful friend helped me get revenge on my husband without doing anything wrong. I think that was the best part of the whole thing.

um, i would tell the other persons spouse, I would want to know if it was me! why should she get away with it and probably continue to cheat on her husband? it's not fair to him.

you nevver know what you would do unless youre faced with it. I think it sounds like you did take teh high road. I was cheated on my my ex fiance with his ex girlfriend. She was a total beeotch to me but there was nothing I could do for revenge on her. I tried staying with my fiance as well, but I never could trust him again and we eventually broke up over it. Do you find it hard to trust your husband now?

Sorry to hear your story. It is not easy to deal with such thing. I am pround of you for the dignity road. I am not sure what could I do. From my readings I learned, I will probably tell him I can forgive him, but only once. I don't mind to meet her for a talk, but it would be in my home, with my husband. I won't say anything else except talking about my family warmly, and all the years, happy and difficult times we were through. I hope this will speak out that a marriage is not just a crush, but more, a commitment and a responsibility. Do you believe karma? If you do, a revenge doesn't end up with nothing, but will probably bring up another revenge. To smile it off, the dignity way, maybe the only way to end it. It is not as easy as it sounds as I can understand. That's why you shall be very pround of yourself. One story of karma, when you own a lot to someone, next life you might be a couple with him, and he will get very sick and can only stay on bed. You will suffer for taking care of him, for all your life. Only when he doesn't care any more how much you own him, you can get the chance be dismissed.

That is so funny the woman my husband cheated on me with to was with another married woman. I can not lie I felt exactly the same way you did but then did exactly the same thing you did too. And, I think you did take the high road of dignity. See, I took the christian way and that is why I didn't take revenge but do I think of it sometimes still heck yeah how could you not. But, just recently I went to beliefnet.com and found ways to help with forgiveness in this situation and to me I think we are both better off we didn't take revenge. So stay strong I feel your pain and I hope things work out wonderfully with you guys. bye