When should I stop using a dummy / pacifier ?

my son was off his dummy at 6 weeks my other 2 never had dummies so the best thing to do is just throw it away and ignore the child when putting fingers in the mouth it does no harm to do that aslong as you keep an eye on them as i know you do as a mother would.good luck but its upto you hope this helps and you do well.

Danielle (seems funny to write my own name), just find a way to get him weened. Find something else that soothes him. This is a great time to create a different bond. I'd rather my child be attatched to a blanky or stuffed animal than a pacifier. A good way to begin is to not let it be visible, remember he is human and you know how some of want things just because we see it. Make a game of trying to look for it. If they really want it they will play. Just stay calm and don't get frustrated. Be creative, that's one of my favorite things of being a parent, you can make a game out of almost anything to distract them and you get to be a kid again by bringing out that imagination.

I don't think 12 months is too old to have it. But if you are feeling uncomfortable why not remove it except for when he goes to bed. If he is still having it at 3 I would start to worry. Ignor everyone else, you do what is best for your son and yourself. 12 months is still very young. God luck.