Friendships gone bad

Sometimes we learn the hard way that the people who we think are our friends, really turn out not to be. Unfortunately sometimes it takes a certain situation to figure this out but sometimes it can be simple to see. I once knew of someone who had many "friends" but once he had to stop drinking due to medications, they all seemed to disappear. I always say to value the true friends that you really have, even if it's just 1 really good friend that you can count on. Maybe it's tough for nicer people to find friends because they aren't surrounded by people who are as nice or in seek of true friendship as well.

A big lesson to learn in life is that you are the most important person in the world, not your friends. If you make friends, friendship is not about making them happy, not about doing things for them, not about spending your money, spending your time in the pursuit of their happiness. You are leaving yourself out of the picture. A big light bulb went ping above my head when I realized how much energy I spent doing things for other people. It didn't make me feel good, it only made me feel tired. I had low self esteem going through school and sometimes I still feel on shaky ground even though I am much much older. But I did learn that I had to fit into this picture too. So I started asking myself questions, like what do I want, what would I like to do. I started to be selfish in a good way so that I could tip the scales in the other direction before finding a better balance. When you do this people like you for yourself not because of what you can do for them. Doesn't mean you will stop wanting to help people, it's just you don't have to come from the part of you that thinks she has to do things to get friends, you do it because you like to do it.

i think you have to understand that your friends do have their lives too. just think of their hard times too and im sure they have their reason for not always being with you.

man if u truly believe that they are u'r good friends than u should feel happy when thay are happy it doesn't matter what are u suffering from unless they are happy.so if they are u'r good friends the same thing applies to them and they cannot be your good friend if you are sad and they feel happy.