Parents raising children to believe 'crying is a weakness?'
By babyhar
@babyhar (1335)
Canada
March 17, 2007 7:50am CST
What do you think of people who raise there children.. Or teach there children that crying is a weakness? Do you believe this is a healthy thing to teach your child? Or do you find it to be so very wrong that parents teach there children to think this way? Or are you one of those people who we're brought up to think this way?
I know I was raised as a child that crying was a weakness.. Also when I had cried I would get called names by one of my parents as I was growing up.. I do believe it truly had effected me because for the longest time as I was growing up.. I believe each time I had wanted to cry I had to stop myself from doing so.. I felt like I couldn't show my emotions around this parent as well whenever I was in there presence..
Now that I am a grown adult I believe the way this parent in particular raised me to believe this.. Is so very wrong. I am now more in touch with my emotions & I do not at all feel ashamed expressing them whenever I feel like it.. I know I would raise my children differently & would never raise them to believe that crying is a weakness..
How do you feel about parents raising there children like this? Would you raise your children to believe this as well? We're you one of those children who was raised to believe that crying was a weakness? Please do share your experiences, along with your feelings about this topic..
Thanks for sharing with me! xx
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4 responses
@tad1fan (3367)
• Canada
27 Mar 07
I think it is WRONG!A child is human too,everyone needs a good cry every now and again,even adults!No one should be ashamed to show their emotions,alone or in the company of others....we were always told growing up that only babies cried but that never stopped me,if I felt like having a good cry,I did whether they liked it or not!All my children are very open about their emotions and are never put down for it.....I feel this opens a lot of doors with your children as well as they aren't afraid to come to you when they feel this way,they talk more to you and listen as well.....
@palpalsky (899)
• United States
18 Mar 07
our loved one want us to be strong and surely if we cry infront of them ...they will not like this ... because crying is never taken as a postive aspect of life ..however i think crying is not weakness but yeah your emotions ..so may be me as a parent will take this think into consideration ...
@samsonskola (3357)
• United States
17 Mar 07
I was very fortunate to have parents that raised me to understand that crying is actually good for you. It is a release of emotions that are a normal part of anyones life, whether it be a child or an adult. My children cried when they felt like crying...even though they are boys, i always told them that it was NOT a sign of weakness, i actually think that if a male can cry when he needs to, that it is a sign of strength, in that they are not ashamed of it. Every human feels like crying at times, no matter male or female. One should never be ashamed to cry about something that is so strong in their emotions, as everyone needs this release in order to see things more clearly. I know that there have been a lot of times that I've felt at least a little better after having a good cry. It doesn't solve the problems, but it does release the tension enough that you can be more in touch with the issue to try to resolve it.
@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
17 Mar 07
I have not come across such examples though I have seen them on TV shows before. :P
Usually, it would be the father who has a military background, or the mother who had to singlehandedly bring up the child alone.
No, I don't think parents should be teaching children that "crying is a weakness". Excessive crying is not good - but the occasional tears to let out tension is fine in my opinion. ;-)
