Jealousy and Love

To tolerate jealousy is perhaps the wrong viewpoint on what is indeed, as you say, a closely intertwined element of loving someone. We all would love to think our partner above cheating or evaluating the relationship by comparing against others, but, in my opinion, there are so many reasons jealousy can actually strengthen the relationship. All is in the handling. If an action is supposed to obviously make us react in a particular way right then and there - don't. It can be quite the heart warming experience to see someone else take note of your partner, stop them and make some sort of compliment...only for your partner to briskly brush them off. The best of which would be the standard dating environments, club, party etc, without you supposed to be around and you witness such a thing without the partners knowledge. People do play on such things though, some being very mindful of the effect a situation will have. Personally, I don't have the previous dating skills to enable a manipulation of circumstances, but many seem to. An example would be noting a particularly physically attractive person in the room (stooge), with the partner only feet away (partner). At an opportune moment the eye is caught of the stooge in a way to get them attracted. The stooge walks up, makes the pre-known introduction with a half smile and the instigator retorts with a fend off line. For emphasis, the partners arm may be grabbed and a big smile of contentment given. These sorts of ways are sometimes integral to a realationship where talking isn;t given a chance and action is needed. All very subtle ! Of course, sometimes the compliments are sincere...but I bet most people have trouble when their partner is approached by someone physically attractive. If a partner seems oblivious to their ways causing you jealousy, then you have to look also at why those actions are actually causing you jealousy. Most of the actions may be routine for them, unnoticed by the partner because they've 'always done that'. Indeed most of the time that's probably true. Never forget you probably haven't known them all their adult life and can't hope to know which experiences became the set ways they have. Actions which seem blatant may have to be weighed up by a 3rd party (friend or bystander), who you could ask before swinging a handbag round the head lol A couple of rules would be: Never put up with someone's roving eye, just because they seem outwardly to care about you. Evaluate each example of jealousy caused by a partner, it may be just a way they have that you see as a relationship control. Talk it through in a balanced and relaxed manner, that is so important. A partner who never seems to get jealous of you, even where you would expect it, may be either so assured of the relationship or be playing around !

it really depends on the person ... some people are are just paranoid, maybe because the partner looks really good and is afraid or maybe there is little trust ... i don't mind haveing a jelous gf, it's pretty funnt:P ... my x-gf was really jelous ... she heard that some girl likes me alot ant totaly fliped! and the fun thing is that i had no idea of her or who she was :)) ... it was amuseing to see her jelosy manifest:P ... but then she got over it and we bouth laught about the whole thing, a cool way to fill up the day! :P ... and if someone dosen't manifest jelosy than yes, maybe there is alot of trust and love so there is no fear ... or maybe they are willing to share! :P (joke, maybe :P) or they don't care witch is rare because even if there is no more love at most people that ar jelous persons it still manifests ... but there is that posibility to ...

I can be jealous sometimes lol but only to a certain degree. I fully trust my Boyfriend and always will but he is the first one I ever have. My Ex Husband I certainly did not trust and my Reasons But this loving Man of mine I trust so much

It differs from person to person;

I think that they sometimes are. My boyfriend is the jealous type, but they way he handles it and the reasons behind it are make me not really mind it. He gets jealous not because he doesnt trust me, he is just afraid of losing me to someone else. And he handles his jealousy in an insecure kind of way, he doesnt confront or get angry. I think angry jealousy is never a good thing

For me, love is unconditional, no ifs and buts. 3 Things that will destroyed lovers and these are: jealousy, betrayal and lies. Only one will prevail, the relationship will fail. Jealousy is a sign of insecurity and self-center. lies will will betray the trust of one partner. And so I don't think love and jealousy should go together.

May be jealousy n love are not so close.......trust come first.....if your partner is jealous for something too unnessasary than its completely mistrust ..no trust no love ,but you cant blindly trust in love either...i sometimes feel jealous when my husband appreciates some 1 else alot .but i hide it ..coz its tooo smal to say it out.it might sound silly.beauty can be appreciated but the main thing is nothing goes on behind me that i am unaware of ...

Yes, in most cases that jealousy and love are closely intertwined with each other.I used to be jealous with my wife during our times when she was still my girlfriend.And it always lead to conflicts and misunderstanding.However when we get married my jealousy have lessen and even it was totally gone.Instead the trust and love with each other grows even bigger everyday.This is the reason why we have a harmonious and happy relationship.