Anyone have a younger child very attached to an older child?

@Joslyn77 (374)
United States
March 17, 2007 1:14pm CST
My seven year old is so very attached to his older brother who is 11. JP (11) can't be gone for more than a few minutes without Chanlder wanting to know where he is. Like what is happening right as I type,JP went to the Y to visit his dad,who is working there. Chandler just came up from the play room looking for him. I told him where JP went and now he is begging to go. I told him JP will be back in a little while and he says he can't wait that long and wants me to take him. JP handles this devotion pretty well,but there are many days when he tells his brother to leave him alone and says Chandler is bothering him. Chandler gets very upset when the "love" is not returned all the time. Any suggetions on how to handle this?
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@carolscash (9492)
• United States
17 Mar 07
I really don't know how to tell you to handle it. Both of my girls are very attached to each other and miss each other terribly if they are apart. One is 0 and the other is 16 and they get along great for the most part. As you said though, the older one sometimes sees the younger one as a pest and needs a break. However, I don't see that the other way. The oldest one has even been mad if I let the younger one go spend the night with grandma because she isn't home with her. My two even sleep in the same room even though they have seperate rooms, because they don't want to be apart. I am sure the older one is going to want this to end soon and I am not sure how I will handle that either. It is nice that siblings are close and want to be with each other but it can almost be as bad as them fighting all the time too. Don't you agree?
• United States
17 Mar 07
Sorry about the typo the younger one is 10 not 0. Thanks!!
@Trace86 (5030)
• United States
19 Mar 07
You see how my sister's girls are. When they had separate rooms, they would end up in the same bed. So she moved them into the same room, separate beds and the same thing happened, they ended up in the same bed. She actually moved their beds together about a month ago so they would go to sleep. They seem to want to be together all the time. But then once in a while, the older one will just want to be alone and the little one just can't seem to be by herself. Is there anything Chandler likes to do alone, without JP? Maybe when JP wants to be alone, you can do something special with Chandler.