My parents are strict, what should I do?
By nikkivess
@nikkivess (1)
Canada
March 17, 2007 7:11pm CST
As a grade 12 student, I try heard to have good marks, good friends and be a good person. The only thing is, is that my parents are very strict. I've tried talking to them about it but it doesn't seem to work. They treat me like I am a child. Some nights they don't even let me go out! I don't undertand. This is not how my final year of highschool should be, and the last year I have living with my parents. They should trust me by now. They know that I am a good person, so I don't understand WHY they treat me like this? They say that communication is one of the key things parents should have with their kids, yet I feel if i try to tell my parents something, they will blow it all out of proportion. It was gotten so bad that I have to sneak out to do the littlest of things. They have gotten better this year but still, not letting your teenage daughter (who they say they trust because they know I am a good person and will do the right things)go out on weekends is alittle too much. They say they trust me but they don't show it. What should I do? I've tried talking to them, telling them how I feel, but every time I think I've gotten through to them, we go right back to the start. Talking to them doesn't seem to be the answer because they don't listen. What should I do? I want to be treated like a normal person, not a kid, with rules that are reasonable, not unfair.
2 responses
@aprilgrl (4460)
• United States
18 Mar 07
I think they are protecting you. Are you the only child? do act your age just so many thing that can be it but I really thingk they are protecting you. Did your parents explain why they treat you this way?There's so many thing that could be the problem like they don't realize that you are growing up and yes you are right about the senior yes it should be a hppy time of your life.
@bnza10 (26)
• Australia
18 Mar 07
you say you're a year 12 student right? well i was in your position in 2005. i got so fed up with my parents strictness that i couldnt take it anymore. no matter what i did, it was never good enough for them. they would rather me sitting in my bedroom studying all day and all night without any rest or fun.
so this is what i did, i moved out. i found a place that was about 4kms away from them. got a part time job as a waiter so i could pay my weekly rent. and continued to study at my own pace and still having fun. for the first week or so, it is hard because you're still adapting to the changes. but for the second week, i really liked the changes. i still studied hard and got a good ENTER score that i was proud of. at the end of my schooling years, my parents realised that they were wrong at always being so fussy and strict.
mate, i know what you're going through, i really do. what you need to do is figure out a plan that best suits you. but that what you should do if you're comfortable to do it. you say your parents treat you like a kid. so prove to them that your not by being independent. once you're on your own, do not call them. wait till they call you. because your parents are strict, it also means they care about you too much. so by hearing you say that you'll leave home. they will either be very angry but also happy at the same time. they would most probably be thinking something like, "oh my, my little baby is growing up".
that is my advice to you. hope this helps ya mate. :D
