When it's good to be a quitter?

What outburst was this? A personal one at home or here? I'm lost totally. But anyhow, my perspective of quitting anything in life at all is this.... I come first to everyone in my family, and life in general no matter what. If I can't be happy I can't make others happy etc. So therefore I quit things when it's affecting my life style & if it's not doing me and/or my life any good. I've never been a believer of that saying don't be a quitter. I do things to make my life pleasant, therefore that's why I've quit a lot. I am a happy husband, man, father, son, grandpa, brother & friend due to the fact I'm making these decisions. I hope I didn't lose you. LOL. Anyhow go with your heart in all aspects of your life I say. Thanks for a great discussion and keep at it. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!

It all depends..sometimesIam sostubborn..like today with my mylot song..I didn't want to give up..yet aftet 11 years of a very unhappy marriage I quit because I just couldn't go on any more. It all really depends on the situation. I usually am not a quitter but if I am too much taken for granted and exploited really badly then I dowalk away.But now I try not to be taken advantage of..I am learning to be assertive..but without being agressive. I do sometimes get despondent..like you did yesterday..but there are always good friends that will pick me up..and then I feelit is worth carrying on..

There is no good in quitting especially when it's something you want badly. Quitting only adds fuel to the fire. It is human nature to give up after a certain point, no matter what the situation. But again we gain nothing by quitting. For example, take marriage, it helps to work things out rather than walking away. When my hubby and I got together first, it wasn't easy since it was an arranged marriage and we had a lot of things to adjust to. We used to squabble a lot and it wasn't pleasant. It of course didn't make sense to quit and give up on each other, instead we worked on it and I can tell you happily that I'm glad things have worked out for us. I'm not a quitter and don't give in that easily. If I want something then I would go to any extent to get it. Unless you change your mind and don't want something then you leave it, I wouldn't call that quitting.

I don't think I saw the outburst, but I have always had a theory about those who insist that quitters are losers. Most people who insist you continue on a path that has proven more trouble than it is worth, want to keep you handy so they can abuse you more. People who respect you don't insist that you ignore your own instincts. When it is time for change it is wisest to listen to your personal muse, guardian angel, spirit guide, or what ever you feel like calling it, and proceed as you see fit.

I believe in the process of "walking away to take inventory." Perseverance is a nice idea, but sometimes you have to pause to see if the energy you're putting out MAKES SENSE. That's not about "quitting," but about "redirecting efforts." Sometimes what we need most is perspective. Figuratively speaking, the "problem" may not be that you're wasting effort trying to grow watermelons in the desert, but that you need to put all that effort into building an irrigation system, rather than tending watermelons. Does that make sense? When dreams come true for people, and it appears that it was due to "dogged perseverance," you can often dig deeper and discover that there were MANY "course corrections" along the way. And sometimes things we want may simply be a "lost cause." I might have a dream of becoming a typesetter... but in these days of electronic publishing, I'd have to take a long hard look at just WHAT I'd hope to accomplish by pursuing that dream. And so it may be with a relationship, friendship or job... and it may even have served your needs at one time, but we all CHANGE, with time... and we owe it to nobody to pursue things that don't address our needs and wants.

Hello dearie, I call this the power of "walking away". It is a strategy among chess players too. If you can, of course you want to keep advancing and thus destroying all your enemies. But if you can't sometimes sacrifice is called. It may be an important chess piece i.e. something important in your life but after you "walk away" and sacrifice this, you will find that you suddenly have many new options. In a chess game, this will give you another shot at winning. In life, this would mean success in your chosen endeavors. Excellent topic bunny, I have to give you another "+". ;-)

Well Charms I am a Fighter and I do not quit until I know it is not going to work It took me 21 Years to realise that my Marriage is never going to work and that my EX will never change so I ended it after 21 years as I knew with my Disability I would not be strong enough anymore to keep fighting for something that will never happen. But I never quit until I have fought to make it work and so far apart from the Marriage I have fought my Way through a lot of things these past 5 years. So I do hope you will not give up I really do. As you had a bit of bad luck there but we all have that when we first join. Get rid of the bad and keep the Good and carry on Charms that is what I would and did do when I first joined here.

Hi, charms! I have never considered myself a quitter, but there HAVE been occasions in life when it's better for me to quit. Still I would agonize over that decision for an extended time before finally throwing in the towel. It depends on the pros and cons, really. Not everything is all roses, you have to take the good with the bad, but if the bad is much more than the good, what is the point of continuing with it? As for MyLot...I hope you're staying. You are one cheery person around here and I do like seeing you (and the topics you raise) around :D

Quitting is never good. Whatever the situations come, one should try to give his best to get what he wants rather than quitting or stop trying for that! But things really become very difficult it comes to certain things. Like, when it comes to maintaining a relation, its sometimes good to quit. I would give the example of my roommate. I really had a very bad experience with him. He used to do all the things that made me feel annoyed. For times, I believeed that things will change. I tried every possible thing to match the frequencies of we two. But when I realized that that was how much I could do, I decided to quit. May be if I had more patience, I could have tried a bit longer. But that was all for me! So, I think it all depends from person to person, one's patience and willpower!

Life is always throwing curb balls at you, you just have to learn to adapt to them. I've had a lot of problems in my life, and honestly I try my best to do them and only have quitting usually as a last resource. Thing is if everyone quited to everything, they would end up quitting to life, and well everyone has problems so I am guessing the world would be a very empty place. What you can do is take a time off, that sometimes helps to put things into perspective. Try evaluating what the pros and cons are of quitting myLot and if it's really worth quitting as it might make what ever made you quit in the first place feel like it's winning as it defeated you by making you quit. You've posted for so long, worked hard at it, do you really think they deserve the feel of wining, do they deserve to make you go or do you deserve to keep on here and fight for you're right of persistence? Sure I've wanted to quit a few things but I say this to most thing: "I prefer to regret that, that I've done then to have never tried and never known" Kisses and best of wishes Carpe Diem

It takes courage to quit, my friend. In my opinion, it is not above perservance. Quit only when one further step forward is going to bring you more pain and hurt. If staying on and doing nothing and there is no negative impact generated, why the need to quit? No need to slog, it will rot on its own. Oh, what am I talking?

I agree with what all you said as it's better always to overlook people's fault when we doesn't want to respond.

For me I try not to hold on to too much and just let it go. I wonder if it is quiting when you don't hold onto anger with someone? Maybe indecision it is not time to take any actions at that time and see if it resolves itself. For me... everything always works out and fades away.

There have absolutely been times in my life where quiting was the best thing. I used to be part of a non-profit historical education group. We did sword fighting shows, then afterwards did a Q and A section with the kids about day-to-day life in the middle ages. It was great fun! Well, I moved up rather quickly, until I was a board member and a hundred other jobs. The problem was, some people were kicked out of the group for stupid little reasons, while one man was allowed to sexually harrass one of our female members without anything being done about it. I left this group a while ago because it was all stress, and because there are groups and people in my life whose reputation I do not want to be affilitated with. Oh, and btw......If at first you don't succeed, skydiving is not for you!:)

i think if u have the ability then u can make the things start working for urself,and yes for me my own satisfaction is a must for me.

Not when you do not like what ever you are doing.perseveranceis good when you are aiming to achieve and fail in your initial attempts.That's when most people loose heart and drop out. But sometimes when let go you can achieve what you wanted to.

to quit or not to quit is indeed a dilemma. but the decision is really for you to take. whatever will be your decision is acceptable. i wont say you stop or you should continue. Because i believe that you should only stay and do the things that makes you happy. Is staying here in my lot satisfying for you? are you still happy here? try to consider yourself before taking any decision may it be about my lot or personal matters!

don't quit that easily. just remember what is the important thing that make u chose it from the first place :D

Why should you quit myLot doesn't it give you any satisfaction of helping others, improving your self-esteem, and earning money? well it's up to you.If you really had enough, well its all right provided that you can balance it all. However, if you are having too much, then you should"think" about gettin' off. There are some hings in life that you must not give up due to promises, obligations, etc. So the next time you decide on something try to think first. It is not bad to quit bad quitting is worse than losing.