Personal matter with teenage daughter please help if you can

I do not think that embarrasing her is the way to go, I think you need to see if you can take some time for just her an outting of some sort, where the two of you can talk about things. Maybe to a little specialty coffee shop or something that will make her feel special on a "woman" kind of level. Talk to her openly and honestly about making sure that she keeps not only herself clean especially ant that time of the month, but that it is also important to make sure that the pads make it to the trash as well because with the warmth and blood and moisture it could attract many things including maggots. Explain to her that though having a period is undesireable, she is becomming a young woman and what if her friends come over and see these kind of things on the floor what will they think? I know I am having cleaning issues with my daughter keeping her room clean, I talk to her about respect and privacy, and how if she wants to have privacy in her room then she needs to keep it clean so that I don't have to go in there to clean things up for her. There was a time I refused to go in there so she had no clean laundry either, so she got bugged pretty bad at school when she had to wear dirty clothes for two days, then she came home and cleaned her room so I could do her laundry. It is a struggle that is for sure. God Bless!

Wow and yeah a little offensive but thanks for the warning!!! Actually, several of my friend's daughter's hve exhibited this behavior during the first year of menstruation. She will get out of her "piggy" ways soon I pray for you. Unil then, if her floor isn't perfect, don't let her leave the room. Seems harsh but come on that's just nasty

I understand...I live with a teenager myself. I would make her clean it up and tell her that it is unacceptable and you don't want to see that again. She needs to wrap them up and dispose of them properly. I would tell her that if she doesn't start doing this..then she will lose something..or priviledges..allowance etc. If that dosen't work...make her clean her entire room...top to bottom....

WOW and YUCK. The best way to stop this kind of behavior is believe it or not by embarrising her with it. She really doesn't care what mom and sis think because they are familys. Let her know that if it continues you'll just make sure that you let everybody else know how wonderfully she is letting everybody know when it is that time of the month. I am sure that it will stop them. I know this seems harsh but harsher would be if she doesn't take care of herself and the things around her she will end up getting sick by inviting bugs and animals into the house for they can smell it even if we can't.

You will just have to be straightforward with her. Let her know that she is a woman now. She has to take care of herself and her things. Let her know how to properly dispose her used sanitary pad. Maybe you can tell her what would her friends think if they came to her room and saw the things you found. Tell her she should start acting like a lady. And that trash belongs in the trash.

yuckkkk.at the 13 years of age they should know how to clean themselves.you first threat her by telling all the bad side effects about unhygenic.if she goes stay here like this then she will loose her beauty by getting algergic into her face and other parts of body. she can infected her eyes or something like that.talk to her openly just like a friends.if you determined then you can get rid of this problem.

Im soo sorry but i think embarrassing her is the wrong route to go and its just aboslutely mean as hell to do that to a child,,especially a teenager..they have enough that they are going threw..with lifes embararasments.What i think you should really do is take her somwhere,,maybe the park,,or for pie or something an dtell her how gross that is and unhealthy, and unsanitary,,just talk to her..and if that doesnt happen then start to punish her,,,in certain ways..

Sorry I have no suggestions here but I find my youngest daughter is somewhat the same and so was my little sister years ago but not as bad as leaving things on the floor. Maybe thats just some thing some girls have in thier genes. I have to be constantly tell my step daughter to clean those kind of things up all the time.

I'm a little curious as to why you are still diong her laundry as well. Maybe she needs to start doing that for herself. A little responsibility can go a long way. I think some people also just have lower standards of cleanliness or something. I had a cousin who did this for a while, it's completely disgusting, and no one could understand it. You should ask her why she thought it was OK to just toss her used sanitary products around her room like that. Does she really care so little about herself that she doesn't care what kind of dump she sleeps in? Gives me goosebumps. I'm amazed.

hey thanx!! so long i thought i was the messiest person on the universe!! now you proved me wrong!! i guess i am not making you prooud!! anyways i think you should be quite strict with this gal of yours!! i would suggest you stop cleaning her room!!leave them there to stink... one day,she will not be able to bear the stink and she will automatically clean up her room... but i dont know how u guys will stay in the house till then!! LOL well i dont see anyother way to let her come to her senses!!

no clue sorry maybe the real issue is why doesn't it bother her it is her room give her privacy I figure if she wants friends or boyfrinds , she would clean it eventually maybe leave it for a year or 2 maybe she is trying to get your GOAT or something, sounds like maybe it worked too in 5 years when she goes to college, hire somebody to disinfect the room maybe have her watch that dating show in which they check out each others rooms to see who to date

I agree that embarrassing her right now is not the way to go. I think you do need to sit her down and have a loving conversation with her. It could be that she is just lazy or it could be a sign of something more serious. She could have a form of hording disorder or some other kind of problem that makes it hard for her to throw things away. I know it sounds bizarre, but I knew someone once who kept her vomit and urine in jars under her bed. I would talk to her and maybe help her clean her room this once. Look for other signs of hording. Get her a new trash can and let her know that it is her responsibility to keep her room clean from now on. Let her know that if she does not keep it clean then she will lose privileges. Let her know you are there for her if she does ever need help with anything. Embarrassing her will only drive her away from you. Shame is a harmful thing for a child to feel. Just let her know there are consequences to her actions. She can choose whether they are good or bad by her behavior. If she does seem to have a hording problem, maybe she needs to talk to a counselor. Good Luck.