My Husband Hates His Job!

@MsJessi (423)
United States
March 18, 2007 10:43am CST
Isn't it amazing how the amount a person dislikes their job can effect their entire family? My husband hates his job so much. The reason he hates his job is because he is the top person. He works for a mortgage banking company and so much of the workload falls on him. Not to mention, this company has a tendency to be so unorganized. But here's my problem. My husband disliking his job, effects our homelife. I hate to see him so unhappy with his job, that even I wish I could take his place. I wish I could switch roles with him, let him be the stay at home dad while I worked. Cause quite frankly, I'd love to work. Granted, I love being at home with my kids, but I'm a worker. I feel better when I'm providing for my family. He has even said that he'd love to stay at home with the kids. The problem with that is, there's no way I can make the amount of money that he's making right now...not right away. So I just don't know how we'd do it. So that's why things stay the way they are for now. At least until I can go back to work, maybe after at least 2 of the toddlers are in school. Then we'd only have to pay for one child being in daycare. I dunno, it doesn't cause fights very often, but sometimes it does. Cause he gets so frustrated and stressed out...and then he comes home like that, and I'm already frustrated and stressed out from being here all day. I just wish he could find something else that would make him happier. He's been with this company for 3 years, and I think it's really wearing him down.
1 response
@mbizmom (237)
• United States
18 Mar 07
When everything falls on you by being at the top it makes you stressed out all the time. I had a similiar position and I couldn't shut off the stress when I got home because as soon as the phone rang I had something else to deal with. You finally get to the point that you wish you would lose your job, that way you don't have to deal with the stress anymore but don't feel irresponsable for quitting. Your husband is probably going through something similiar, I feel for him. Just keep trying to help him relax when he is at home and prepare yourself for when you can go back to work, you might try some online classes so you can make more when you go back. He knows he's stuck so just try to support him and you guys will make it through this.
@MsJessi (423)
• United States
18 Mar 07
Yes, I have been trying to do that, it does get hard during the week, cause we both get exhausted, but I do want to try to keep him as un-stressed as possible. (is that a word?) lol. I do want to take online classes...it's just a matter of being able to afford it.
@mbizmom (237)
• United States
18 Mar 07
I didn't know this until recently when I started researching, but you can actually get financial aid for online colleges in the US. If you have a few children and only one income you may qualify. I know the idea is daunting, though, because I only have one child and can't imagine finding the time to complete online courses. I hope everything works out for you guys.