Ooooh, he Got In so Much Trouble!
By MsJessi
@MsJessi (423)
United States
March 18, 2007 10:50am CST
Last night I was going thru my 6 year old's backpack and found a little folded up piece of paper with every curse word you can think of written on it!!!
I was in shock! lol. I mean, I know that in this day and age, curse words are becoming too common, and kids will curse when not around parents anyway. I just couldn't believe it was him! Drake's not usually like this at all. All I could do was stare at him. He instantly started crying and my husband was in the kitchen cooking...so I had Drake take it in the kitchen to show dad.
Then he really started crying. He said he wrote them down because he had seen them written on a wall on the way to school. So he decided to write them down after finishing his spelling test at school. He chose to write them down, because he assumed I'd never see it. He had intended on erasing them.
Now normally when one of our older kids is caught using bad language, they get the soap!
But considering it was dinner time and we were all watching "flushed away" we just made him sit in the other room and eat and then go to bed.
Man, my kids are growing up way too fast!
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25 responses
@Mamaof2 (574)
• Canada
19 Mar 07
You did the right thing with taking action. Because he is only 6...I think that punishment is not really appropiate but sitting and talking to him and just letting him know that we do not use words like that. Tell him that they are bad words and you do not want to see no hear them from him again. Sometimes little kids just need some direction and then they will understand. I still to this day remember being about 6 years old, standing on the stairs and in the midst of a fight with my father, sticking up my middle finger at him. I had no clue what it meant...I just new that it meant something bad. Needless to say, I got the bar of soap that I remember tasting for a few days...lol.
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@cloud_kicker_32 (4635)
• United States
19 Mar 07
ughhh!! ^ yrs old and they are already starting that? I am dreading my son getting any older hun..im just scared..and what wall were they wrote on? I would be on the horn tot he school..and bus driver is it was the bus..to get that crap off! noooo 6 yr old should be seeing that kind of language! its noo matter why they know to use it..they see it on the way to school!! so in a way it wasnt his fault in my eyes,well u kno wwhat i mean right? And i think you handled it suburbly! I am just sad that he being that young age had seen it anywhere...especially on the way to school..I do hope you yell and get something done about it..Lots of luck my dear!!:)
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
19 Mar 07
They start earlier and earlier these days, however I thought you handled it quite well and I am sure that he knows that what he did was wrong and that he will think hard next time before doing anything like that!
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@vampirestonez (1181)
• Pakistan
19 Mar 07
wow! That would definately shock anyone! But that is the sad truth of this world.
Well as we move on day by day, i have seen kids use more curse words and slangs and I for one had thought that I was bad! :P
But it is really strange to see kids who can barely spell their own full name using cuss words and that makes me think that what would happen when once these kids grow up and become parents themselves.
It makes me think if this is "advanced" then what will the future generation will be.
I think the time out was the right thing you did to your son and also do make sure that he is hanging around with the right friends because kids can easily get influenced by anything that they see.
Also make sure that your son knows that using such language is wrong and will not be tolerated at all.
Although I would also add that with today's generation it is hard to keep a track of what's going on with kids.
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@Joslyn77 (374)
• United States
18 Mar 07
yes,I agree that kids are growing up way too fast. I have three kids myself and not so long ago my nine year old got into trouble because she fliped the bird to my seven year old. I was not very happy and she was sent to her room and grounded from tv for two days.
@tarheelnancy (1317)
• United States
19 Mar 07
I think he's learned his lesson. Yep, my son had a few cuss words written down as well once. Him and another friend were trying to see who knew the most cuss words. Half the words written I didn't even know he knew! They learn more than they should sometimes at school.
He got in alot of trouble too, grounded, loss of privledges, and I had him write 100 times, "I will not write bad words because good words are better."
I'm just wondering when the indecent picture drawing is going to start.......hopefully never or anytime soon!
@not4me (1711)
• United States
19 Mar 07
I did something like that when I was little. I was a little older than your son but I did it because I never used them out loud and found it to be a way to get all of that off my chest. I think I only did it once and trashed it not long afterwards. 6 does seem pretty young. Does he hear excessive swearing in the home? Just a thought. :)
@MsJessi (423)
• United States
19 Mar 07
Oh, I never said I was perfect...I try not to, unfortunately, I was raised around it too. So sometimes I have to really make an effort not to do it. I'm better than I used to be that's for sure. When I was in my late teens, I talked like a sailor. But for the most part now, I watch what I say around the kids. Especially since it's so easy for them to pick up, not knowing what it means.
@matlgal (1686)
• United States
19 Mar 07
Thank you for being a Parent that cares!!! The action you took was perfect. I think that at age 6 some parents would just laugh it off and think it funny or cute.
Good for you for making him undestand that this is totally unacceptable to speak it or even write it. I hear so many young kids now talking foul and behaving worse and the parents just look lost!
If you stop it at 6 I bet at 16 you will have a wonderful young man to be very proud of.
@MsJessi (423)
• United States
19 Mar 07
Well, thank you I appreciate that. Too bad everyone can't agree with you, but that's ok. Everyone's entitled to their own.
I try to let my kids know right from wrong and I always try to explain to them why. My mom always used to use the "Cause I said so" tactic...and I do sometimes, but I think it's important to explain why and why not, otherwise, they won't understand it.
@Capndon (337)
• India
19 Mar 07
Well look at it this way. The kid is trying to use knowledge of the English language & using these words as a means to get a grip on the language because these words have a psychological advantage with kids & they are attractive to them. Many things go to make them that way. It could be enjoyment, social circle, status & so on. Why can't we try to use the same interest to develop the kids rather than punish them? I am not saying I know a way but food for thought maybe?
@CarlyLaine (759)
• United States
19 Mar 07
You are making the poor kid crazy. Parents like you destroy children.
I think you're not overly bright, because any thinking person would never have done this to their child. You could have just talked to him and not made a big deal over it.
Why don't you do what other parents do...tie your kid up and lock him in the closet? You couldn't do much worse than what you did.
@Capndon (337)
• India
19 Mar 07
That really made no sense at all did it? There was a point in the comment though. There are more than one ways to tackle a situation & this was one of them. There's no wrong or right. With kids & growing ones at that these things happen at the spur of the moment. There's no way she would have planned her approach. Point valid & respected though.
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@healer (1779)
• India
19 Mar 07
Your kids is at the learning stage as, we all know and have come across those things in life. There is a age in which we want to do everything whether its right or wrong, and risking to try out anything that he finds on his way. So, you don't have to get upset but let him know that these things are not good and it will led him to such and such. Anyway you might be a good mom i guess, and i saw a post of yours where you have posted your youngest daughter hehehe she is very cute, and she takes after you. Anyway good luck in parenting.
@clang08 (18)
• Philippines
19 Mar 07
really ?? i couldnt imagine kids doing such! im in the philippines now and right here we spank all the little kids who do such thing ! in this country parents really discipline their children because they dont want them to be bad and irresponsible when they grow up !
@coolmailraj (2460)
• India
19 Mar 07
Its nice to let someone off the hook a few times. It makes him or her think that you listen to them and they let you see those parts of their lives which they otherwise will not.
@monkeywriter (2004)
• United States
19 Mar 07
SAD! That is way too young to be cursing or even just writing down curse words. Yeah you did the right thing punishing him in some way. If you write it down you are thinking it. And too much of that can get you saying it... its something I have learned.
I dont think I really knew much cursing at that age. I might have heard on occasion a swear word from my parents... but rarely. And that was it. Kids grow up too soon if you ask me.
@retardedrugrat (4791)
• Canada
19 Mar 07
It's kinda frightening when kids are learning language like this at such a young age.
Back when I was in school I didn't even hear OR see any of these words till I was at least 11! And I knew enough not to write them down or let my parents hear me say them lol.
Your son didn't know how bad it was to have these words, and hopefully, he's learned his lesson.
@rpebad (89)
• Uganda
19 Mar 07
they really are trying to skip infantry stages to the mature one but that is not a complement to them.they are getting spoilt and those punishment should be helping out.kids are getting more spoilt than before and the only way to reach out to them is by talking to them,tell them the consequences of child uttering such big words.
@vikasintl (266)
• India
19 Mar 07
I know a few family where children learn from parents behavior mostly than the school or other children.
@isateresa (59)
• Philippines
19 Mar 07
i grew up in an household were my dad curses a lot and my mom expects me not to imitate him. haha;D it was so confusing but i learned early on that cursing is bad. i also learned a few curses. haha;D i didn't learn to curse "normally" until i was in college. maybe you're son does not know the gravity of what he did, but i think he probably learned his lesson when you told your husband! haha;D
