Frustrated with husband

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I am so irritated right now. I am a stay at home mom. We have 4 kids (6, 5, 4 and almost 1). He works 40 hours a week. The problem is all day long while he is at work the kids are climbing all over me, screaming and yelling, watching TV and driving me crazy. When he gets home he lays down on the couch, turns on something he wants to watch (which is usually some stupid movie that I can't stand or Seinfeld) and then proceeds to fall asleep on the couch. If I try to change the channel he wakes up and gets mad because he was "watching that." But my biggest problem is that he snores. He snores very loudly. So from the time I get up until he finally goes to bed all I listen to is noise. The kids are running around crazy until he gets home at 2:20-3pm then he sends them to play in their rooms so he can sleep on the couch. They make a lot of noise so he yells at them and then he snores. Which is equivalent to nails on a chalkboard to me. I want to scream. If I wake him and tell him to go in the bedroom (where it is quiet and the kids won't bother him) he gets mad and says no because he is watching TV. Every single day it is the same thing. By the time he goes to bed at 9pm and I get the kids to sleep (around the same time) I am so stressed that I can't relax. The only time I get to have quiet is after everyone is asleep. So from around 9/10pm until I fall asleep. So I usually stay up until 1 or 2am so that I can relax. I get about 5 hours of sleep a night and I have to sleep on the couch because of his snoring. My back is killing me all the time and I have constant headaches 24/7. But here it is on his day off and he is watching another stupid movie that is giving me a headache while snoring away on the couch. I am so tired of this crap. he never does anything but work and lay on the couch. Maybe change a diaper here and there. He NEVER plays with the kids. When he is home they are in their room because they "bother" him. I do everything else--all the cooking, cleaning, laundry, childcare, etc. The last time he volunteered to do something with the kids that involved leaving the house was probably 3 years ago and it lasted about 20 minutes and then he came home because they were too much to handle. I do everything with the kids. If they want to go outside I have to stop everything I am doing to take them because he never will. I am just fed up with my life. When I became a mother I thought it would be a partnership but instead I feel like a single mother most of the time. He was great when we got married and did everything for our older kids but in the last few years he has done less and less until we have gotten to how things run now. I do everything but go to a job. He goes to his job and nothing else.