Divorced Christians

I've been divorced since 2005, and believe it or not, me and my ex husband still remain good friends. He and I both have moved on with our lives, however, we still have a great amount of respect for one another... This just goes to show, not all divorces have to be so cruel and hateful, Friendship is still possible...

A few weeks ago my husband told me he wanted a divorce. He didn't want to work it out and wants the single life. Everyday seems different than the last, some are good and some are bad. Never did I think I would be getting a divorce. I was brought up that divorce was wrong and should be a last resort. I'm feeling helpless and wish I could change things to the way they used to be, but it won't happen. He tells me that we just don't have anything in common anymore and instead of trying to work things out he is running away. We are trying to be nice to one another, but sometimes my emotions get away from me and I become angry because he didn't commit to the vows we promised the day we were married. Almost everynight he was going out drinking until 3/4 in the morning and now I found out that he was bad mouthing me to his parents the last 4 years we were together. For awhile now I have felt this hostility between them and me. So if someone could do this to me why would I still want to be with him? Why can't I just leave it be and face the truth that it's really over? How do I forget all the pain and try to move? I feel I'm only living day to day and have no hope left in this world. Are these normal feelings? Am I supposed to be feeling this way?

Hi Princess, It's a wonderful thing you're doing here that I can't help responding to this post. I'm not married yet but I came from a broken home family that survived issues namely, adultery, gambling addiction, verbal abuse, money and what would be like unending hell to face every day. I've gone through quite a long journey of recovery from those things. But God has redeemed the brokenness in my family and me, one by one, until I believe one day, it will all be fully-redeemed. God allowed me to go through deeply painful breakups to teach me about relationship, being related to imperfect creatures (both my partners and I) and through it all I am determined that when I marry one day, divorce will never be an option. I've met couples who back from the brinks and one common thing I see is because they take their marriage as something more than just their relationship with their spouses, but first and foremost as their relationship to God. In being joined to their imperfect spouses, they learn of God's love to them as imperfect creatures, too. That is why it takes faith to marry, not to their spouse but to God. I myself believe through all the things I've gone through that is what my life is all about. All events and people serve as tools to make me more like Christ, to bring me into more intimate relationship with my Heavenly Father. My response to those things are actually my responses to God. That is why I now see things differently. God is bigger than any circumstances and I will fail to see it if I focus on my circumstances. I'm sorry if my stands might have brought discomfort to you, Princess. But I must say you have been used by God as well to bring comfort to the broken people by sharing what you've gone through like this. Please keep doing so, Princess, you are a princess, a loving daughter of the King of Heaven...=)

I've never been divorced, but my partner has. Amazingly enough I've been able to get to know his ex, and help him handle a few things. No use hating and judging people. What did she do to ME anyway? They have a child together, and if he can get along with her, why shoudln't I?