What is a marriage?

United States
March 18, 2007 2:55pm CST
There are so many people that want to get married, I am one of them, but the lack of the meaning is disturbing. The bible's way is when a man and a woman are joined through God to live honestly, faithfully, responisbily, and to serve God. Americas way is different. We will go into debt, and will our life savings on one day, buy expensive threads, order all this food and spend money on music and pictures. I say go to the courthouse, save your money for retirement, go to JC Penny outlet for a dress and a suit. throw a barbecue at the house, inviting the guests ad go buy a few kodak cameras! I was watching Montel the other day and at least 80% of married man sleep with other men. These wives put on this shield of unknowning what their husbands do undercover and its like what is the deal? Wh marry sometimes is the question I would like to know from those that know that they will be untrue to their vows?
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callia50
@callia50 (8)
• United States
20 Mar 07
I think it's different for each person and on top of that different for each person at different points in their lives. I strongly feel that men have those instincts to procreate and in today's society, those instincts are only viewed as straying. Some men have overcome these instincts though as many more should as time goes by. Theory of evolution, if you will. Humans aren't perfect. That's pretty much what it all comes down to and it's a disappointing fact of life. You get married, you promise yourself to that one person, and you take a chance hoping that one person will feel the same way you do and commit themselves the same way you have committed yourself. Marriage is a choice you make, a sacrifice, a promise, and a risk you take.
Rozie37
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
19 Mar 07
Excuse me, but did you say that 80% of men cheat on their wives with other men? Are you serious? I have never, ever heard such a thing in my life. If it is true, however, it would explain a lot. Anyway, my idea of marriage is to live as close to what the Lord wanted as possible. God designed things the way that they are for a reason and we have to accept and respect that God knows what is best for us. I for one don't want a big wedding, it is a waste of time and money and besides, I don't like all of that attention. I just want close family and friends to be there. Nothing real fancy, just some nice pictures for the photo album. Right now, however, I am more focused on becoming whole and learning to be the wife and mother that God would have me to be. A lot of people get married for what they can get, but if each person get married ofr what they can give, then neither one will be lacking in anything. Marriage is a big step and I do not believe in divorce, at all. So I better get it right the first time.
Beausmom
@Beausmom (18)
• United States
19 Mar 07
I agree fully with this- there is no reason to spend thousands of dollars for one day. It can be just as special to have a less expensive wedding as long as you are getting married for the right reasons. I dont think people spend enough time getting to know their partner and sometimes people rush into marriage not taking the commitment and responsibility seriously. It's definitely true that some people do go into a marriage knowing full and well that either them or their spouse or both of them will cheat - most know this because they already have cheated. Marriage is a sacred bond and people should not take it so lightly.