Does anyone know of a mom who is jealous of her kid(s)?
@PATTYCAKE1979 (227)
United States
March 18, 2007 3:10pm CST
Does anyone know of or even have a mom that appears jealous of her own offspring? This makes no sense to me. My mother and I, do not get along to well. She plays the motherly role, but behind the doors she is very unsupportive a few words to express. My mom will act as if she is so happy and concerned about the things in my life, but she doesn't even spend time with her only four grandchildren! I still talk to her because she is my mother, I am 28 now and I have accomplished the things she hope I would fail to do. Is this crazy or can someone relate?
3 responses
@emtstacy (30)
• United States
19 Mar 07
My mother lives to see me fail. She cannot stand that my brother and I are trying to make something of ourselves and she didn't do nothing but become a janitor or a food server. I am 29 y/o and just had my 2nd kid and she gets mad if someone comes to see me or the baby and don't say to much to her. She will literally get an attitude and get up and leave the room. Whats worse is she gives me attitude for days to follow. Now I am a mom of an 11 y/o and a 2 mth old and I push my oldest to make more of himself than I have so he can live comfortably instead of struggling. I don't get the whole jealousy thing with my mom it is kinda wierd to want to see your kids fail because they were a failure.
@simsam (41)
• Canada
18 Mar 07
I used to date a man whos Mom was jealous of her children. She was terrible to her middle daughter and critisized her marriage for being too affectionate but accusing her son in law of being unfaithful because she was jealous that her marriage failed. When her son bought a house she was not happy for him but accused him of buying a house that was too similar to hers. The oldest daughter still lived at home and was just like the mother! If anyone bought anything they would say"Oh, must be nice to be able to afford that."
It is a hard situation to have to deal with. And it seems people like this are just in denial about it so I find the best thing to do is just put up boundaries in the relationship to try and keep it as civil as possible.
@jemkay (19)
• Canada
18 Mar 07
yes i believe my mother is jealous of me. she has not been supportive my whole life. she doesnt like it when i work. she seems weirded out that my kids are excited to see me and thinks they should stay with her. she always talks about me to other people and i just dont feel close to her. she wasnt happy we bought our home, she didnt come to my graduation even though i was the only one to finish grade 12. things like that happened my whole life. now when something good happens i dont usually share it with her right away as she is a downer. so i can totally relate, sorry.
