Right or wrong
@PATTYCAKE1979 (227)
United States
March 18, 2007 8:54pm CST
Is it possible and okay to show compassion and sympathy for a person who has made your life a living nightmare, for an extended period of time? I have been in a relationship now for 8 years and when I first met him, I had no idea he was married and once I found out, I did stop messing with him. He later divorced the woman and wanted to be with me. But the ex-was CRAZY!! She would harass me on the phone, at my job, come to my home, send the police over to my home with a domestic dispute, slashed my tires, broke my car windows, bleached my seats. But she never physically put her hands on me. Eight years later a mutual friend of hers is a mutual friend of mine, and she asks about me and how I'm doing, and invites me to her home, and It's like, are you serious? If she had it her way we would be the best of friends, and although I have never offered her invitations I still have respect for her and compassion but a friend i can't see. What you think?
3 responses
@limosonia1 (1559)
• United States
19 Mar 07
I can understand her rage for when she found out she probably did not know that you had no idea about him being married. She probably wants to make amends for her actions. I couldn't be friends with her just for the simple fact that although you did nothing wrong it would still feel wrong to me. I just can't see being friends and what if she brings it up. I think you are doing the right thing by just staying away. Just explain it to your mutal friend that although you have no hard feelings you just don't feel it is appropraite considering the situation.
@limosonia1 (1559)
• United States
21 Mar 07
Be very careful seems like there is something wrong with this girl. I know for a fact I would not want to meet or hang out with my x's x. Exspecially after knowing what she knows. Even if it wasn't your fault. Why would she still want to hang out. Sounds to me like she has another motive. You know the saying keep your friends close but your enemies even closer. It seems like that is what she is doing. Just watch your back a woman scorn doesn't get over it that easily.
@era2007 (80)
• Philippines
19 Mar 07
Thats okay, because we can be someone's shoes in life or have the same situation in the future..we have to be nice to eahcother.. Its not any one's fault to fall in love with someone.. and expect the unexpected.. sometimes we can be out bof our minds if we get hurt or we love someone. i gues you just keep the situation under control talk to both of them then if you think that does not work and you see that still have problems between the three of you so you better do something about it.. when you decide there is always a sacrifice along the way to have peace and better life...hope you know what i mean..
