two is a company, three is a crowd..
By diannebcrs
@diannebcrs (1549)
Philippines
March 18, 2007 11:52pm CST
more like two is a couple, then three is a crowd.. so i'm the crowd.. hehe..
i got used to having my best friend at my side. we do stuff together, we talk and joke a lot, we backbite people (hehe! just for fun!) and so on.. then one day, someone courted her. she liked him, too, i guess because in a matter of days, she told him, "yes.."
our bonding slowly diminished (is that the right word? hehe).. she's hanging out mostly with her boy friend.. of course, i was always the chaperone.. but somehow, i kind of feel left out... call me paranoid, but there's this feeling that they (my best friend and her boyfriend) want me to go away so they can be left alone.. well, i asked them about it, but they said that "of course we like you to be around.." maybe that's just a polite thing to say, don't you think? so what should i do? should i move away? i asked my mom about my situation and all she said was, "two is a company, three is a crowd.."
hey, guys, i need your help here. if this situation happens to you, what's the best thing to do? if your best friend or close friend has his/her girlfriend/boyfriend, is it right to move away?...
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@emtstacy (30)
• United States
19 Mar 07
My best friend and I went thru the same thing. She met a guy etc. I was just honest with her and told her how I felt. A true friend will respect the honesty and help figure something out where your not the third wheel and she can spend time with both of you.
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@diannebcrs (1549)
• Philippines
19 Mar 07
is that possible? what usually happens is best friends will end up arguing then fighting about that and that.. sigh..
@jenalyn (675)
• United States
19 Mar 07
I don't think you should move away. I do think that you can have a friendship if you understand that sometimes you can be around them both, sometimes just her, and sometimes you can't be around. As long as you let there be time between them without you as much as there is time with you, then it should be ok. She is probably going to want you around more when he isn't available. I am sure she doesn't want to just kick you out of her life, but she probably wouldn't be able to spend as much time with you as before.
You can ask her to be honest with you so that when they want to go do things as a date that she just tells you instead of letting you come along. You would understand, right? i mean if you were in her shoes, you would know how it feels to be her. She wants to be able to still have you as her friend, and have her boyfriend too.
You are supposed to be there no matter what since you are her friend, you just need to know when not to be the third party. She should be able to make plans with you when they don't want time alone. You can be their friend, and not be the 3rd wheel. You just have to know when that is.
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@patgalca (18370)
• Orangeville, Ontario
19 Mar 07
Been there, done that. I think the thing to do is to sit down with your friend and arrange a girls night for just the two of you once a week, or once every two weeks. I am sure her boyfriend would understand. Doesn't he have nights with his guy friends? That is the only solution I can come up with. It is bound to happen that when a friend has a relationship with a guy that all other friends take a back seat. Try and arrange for a seat with just you and your friend.
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