Do you forgive or do you resent (hold grudges)?

i forgive...........

as they say "it is better to forgive & forget" still holds true today. while it is also true that it is hard to forgive, specially when that someone that wronged you were very dear to you but you must forgive not just that person that wronged you but also yourself. it's not wise to take revenge on someone because life will always catch-up on that person, or as they say "karma." holding grudges will only make you bitter, while the other person have even forgotten what he/she has done. on the other hand, it's not good to forgive easily, since you would tend to be abused often but it is better if you learn from that experience so it won't happen to you again. speaking of experience, a person should always have to forgive, as yoda have said something like, "anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering" another quote is, "No one can hurt you without your consent. It is your willing permission, your consent to what happens to us, that hurts us far more than what happens to us in the first place."

I forgive for ethical and spiritual reasons, but also for more pragmatic ones. It's really hard carrying grudges around all day. It's like carrying around a bag full of rocks. Every grudge that you let go makes your load that much lighter.